Friday, September 16, 2016
Advisory: Eligibility for Marriage Undergraduate Class.
Prerequisite: Completion of Home Duties 101 and/or concurrent enrollment in Responsibility Course 102.
Age Requirement: 20 years or older
*Absolutely no crashing allowed in this class.
Student Learning Outcome (SLO)
- Guarding of heart and feelings
- Dangers of physical contact
Welcome to Christian Dating 101. My name is Professor Heidi Alonso, so let’s get started. Remember that there is no such thing as a dumb question here, so please ask away.
Let’s begin with the logics. What is dating? What is courtship? Any ideas?
Well, dating happens when one person goes out with several people in hopes of finding that one special person. And as you might well be aware of–because most of you have done it–many just date for fun. They don’t care if they play with people’s feelings, because they are not serious.
Now courting. What is the difference of it? Here is the definition given by J.D.
“Courting is the sincere effort of two persons who are finding if it is God’s will for them to be married.”
So yes, of course, courtship is one step closer to marriage. So you will obviously enter into a courtship with a wedding in mind. That is the whole purpose. And now, if you followed all the previous steps prior to this class, then there is a pretty good chance that the person you are courting ( or will court) will be your future spouse. Of course, it might not always work out. That is why you should guard your heart.
And what do I mean by that?
I mean that you should not give pieces of your heart away to just anyone. Don’t go around saying you love such said person out of emotion or mere impulse, because you will regret it later. As time passes, you will realize that you did not really love that person, or you will see that that person was not for you, and you will wish to turn back time in order to recover those words you told them.
And consider this: Wouldn’t it be so special to share those words for the first time with the person who will be your spouse?
Another point that I want to bring out, is the age requirement in order to even enter a courtship. As a rule of thumb, if you are still in your teens, you should be focusing on solving your algebra homework and feeding your pet fish instead of trying to enter this class.
As for you, my dear students in your twenties, please be careful when thinking to enter in a relationship with teenager students in the elementary classes. Teenagers do not really know who they are, or even what they want, because they change their mind so very often. One day they might wake up and decide they want to be a firefighter, but then later on they will announce they will be a brain surgeon.
Take me for example. In my teenage years, I was going back and forth between being a cook, a writer, a poet and songwriter. All survived except for poetry. Let me come up with something so you can see why I kissed poetry bye-bye.
The sky is so blue
Don’t you think so too?
Is it not nice,
To look at the sky
While eating a plate of rice?
You see what I mean? Like they say, I cannot write poetry to save my soul. But you get what I mean, right? You realize that if you court at such young age, or if you decide to court another young person, then your relationship will be ruined because of your/their immaturity. Either you, or that person, will still be figuring out who they are or what they want, and then later they will decide they don’t like you any more because you have green eyes or because of your personality. Bottom line is that you or they will keep changing their minds because at that stage, both of you are still developing emotionally.
To conclude, let’s talk about…yup, the physical stuff like kissing, touching and hugging.
Let’s start with the 00:00:05 second rule.
Okay, get out your paper and pencils, write this down and frame it on your bedroom because it will be on the final test: I will not touch anybody for more than 5 seconds.
You got it? Good! You are such great students! I’m so proud of you. 😀
Okay, moving on.
Why should you not touch people? Well, first off, they don’t belong to you, and unless you have the key of marriage, you won’t be able to get them out the glass box they are in. Of course, I am not saying that kissing, touching or hugging is wrong. Not at all. It is wrong when you do that before marriage, because then it will lead to other things which you will later regret.
But that does not mean that if you are in an official courtship you can’t hug or hold hands. You understand that when you court, you are almost sure you are going to marry the person. And therefore, not court willy nilly. The physical contact is really up to the couple to decide, and they should put their physical boundaries. This might differ from couple to couple, since some individuals might need more restraint than others. However, it is scientifically proven how kissing affects the relationship. It is definitely a blessing within the circle of marriage, but outside of marriage it will affect both, or one of the parties involved in case the relationship does not work. Therefore, causing the breakup to be more painful since there will be physical and emotional losses involved.
So to end, please jot down these questions in your notebook for this class and turn them in for homework next time.
Wouldn’t it be special to share your first kiss with your husband/wife?
Do you think it will be nice to save all your love for your spouse?
Is it not purity the best and most beautiful gift you can give to your future spouse?
Okay, don’t forget to review for the upcoming test.