I’m Not Reading the Bible Anymore

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On the last day of 2016, I presented a little study at church. And I remember recommending everyone there to follow a Bible reading plan for the New Year.

Well, here is the deal: I take that back.

Whoa, whoa! Let me finish here. Don’t jump to conclusions.

Yeah, so beginning January 1, 2017, I went online and downloaded a reading plan to read the entire Bible in one year. I have already read the entire Bible, but I wanted to read it again and stick to a schedule.

And so I began to read…

But–

I missed reading a couple of chapters one day because I got caught up reading another part which was related to what the Sabbath School Lesson was about; and because I did not read them, I somehow felt I was spiritually getting cold and backsliding from the right way.

How wrong I was!

I was treating the Bible like my Chemistry textbook: I have to read all these chapters today, or else I am in BIG trouble.

And here is another thing: you read the amount of chapters you have to read, and then you don’t remember a thing.

So starting today, I will not follow a schedule. I will not merely read the Bible. I will read it diligently. It does not matter if I only read one verse a day, as long as I understand it, apply it to my life, and never forget it.

“Search the scriptures; for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me.” John 5:39

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The Relationship I NEVER Expected

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During this week, I heard one person say that the best and lasting relationship is the one you never expected.

Do you think this is true?

I honestly have been thinking about this a lot, and so I decided to ask several of my friends about their opinion on this matter. (Later when I get more responses, I will edit in their opinions.)

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 “Yes I do think that it’s best when you are not really looking for a relationship…there is something about providence being involved in a relationship that makes it that much better, as it keeps you on the edge of your seat because–generally speaking–we pray for God’s will to be done, so that means we have to be aware of what is taking place around us at all times because we want to make sure that God is leading in our relationships…I do think that it is better to have an unexpected encounter than to have one where you are “looking for” or expecting to be in a relationship…many times we make a mistake in using to much of our strength and time in looking to be in that “perfect” relationship.” S.G

“God is always in control of the future, and His plans are not always our plans. So yes, a relationship you never expected is the best one.” R.D

“I don’t see any connection with the best and longest relationships having anything to do with us expecting them or not. But I’d say our best relationships are the ones that God unites together. Sometimes we expect it sometimes we don’t.” Enoch Leffingwell

“There are “miracles”, which we know are not “miracles”, they are God’s mighty ways, that we can’t even imagine…” M.B

“I do agree that the relationships that develop spontaneously do end up working out better than those which were planned or pursued. Like the verse says: God’s plans are not your plans. That is what we need to keep in mind when thinking of relationships and other aspects of life.” S.A.J.N

If you’ve had a failed relationship in which you built countless straw castles, then I am pretty sure that you now know that the best relationship is not the one you expected or planned–it will be the one that you gladly accepted as a gift, wrapped in the gift paper of trust in God.

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LordFor as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:8-9

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He/She Broke My Heart

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Heartbroken…

Just how does one avoid being heartbroken?

Well, for starters, if we hear counsel, then we would not be in this jumble of problems in the first place. I know that if you hear counsel, then you will avoid yourself many heartaches—believe me. Your parents are right 99% of the time. And I say 99% because your parents can be wrong about a person too. There are some guys who just seem like saints come down from heaven, but then as time goes on, you and parents really get to see who this Mr. Too-Good-To-Be-True really is; or Miss Too-Good-To-Be-True.

But well, the heartbreak is there now. And you feel like all your world has crashed beneath your feet. Your dreams hold no significance anymore, you try to find a reason to get up from bed, and you literally feel like you are in a place where you don’t know where to go or what to do.

You feel lost without this person in your life.

Well, first thing you have to do is stop thinking about all this hurt. What happened already happened, and it’s past. There is nothing more cruel that you can do to yourself, than to continue living in the past. Leave the past alone, pick up your dreams and look to the future. Why will you drown all your hopes and dreams, all because of a person who did not deserve your love?

Another thing to keep in mind is this: do not go publishing your hurt in Facebook. That will only spark a chain reaction of “oh! So sorry to hear that! 😥 .” And all that will do, is put you down. But in order to avoid that, you should not have made your relationship public in Facebook in the first place. As a rule of thumb, I recommend that you not publish anything until your relationship is like SUPER serious. It’s going to hurt you so much to delete all those pictures in Facebook and…you can imagine.

Also, try to help others; don’t go into a reclusive life in order to mourn your misfortune. As you help others, and make others happy, you will find that your heart will heal. Slowly, that smile will come back to your face, and you will realize that you were put on this world for a very special purpose.

You can also take up a hobby to keep you busy. But please don’t go crazy and decide that skydiving is the best way to forget your troubles.

And well, even after all the tips I have given you, the only person who can really heal your heart is God. As your relationship grows stronger with God, you will see in clear light why that relationship failed, and why you had to go through it. You will realize that the heartbreak will only make you stronger and wiser. The next time another guy/girl comes knocking on your door, you will not so easily fall for their charm.

Just remember this: YOU ARE SPECIAL, and the person that is meant for you is somewhere around there, and he/she will come at the right moment. Don’t accept the first guy/girl that shows interest in you. Of course, there is a possibility that that person might be the right one, but what I’m trying to say is that you SHOULD NOT ENTER A RELATIONSHIP just because you FEEL LONELY.

Your heart will heal. Trust me, it will—slowly but surely.

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This article was written in response to a request I received from one of my readers in India. This person asked my opinion on how to deal with heartbreak, and so I thought it was a great idea to share this with all of you. 🙂  

Picture of Peace~*~Un Cuadro de Paz

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Friday, October 14, 2016

Dear Diary,

Being in peace does not mean that everything around me will be perfect as I would like it to be. It means that amidst everything that is whirling around, I will be at peace simply because I have my head rested on the chest of the person who controls the world itself.

Things that I never expected to happen have happened; questions need answers, and sometimes I feel like if I need a literal written paper from God telling me exactly what I need to do, and what is the next step to take.

But honestly, there have been times where I just lay in bed and try to logically try to piece things together, and find answers and solutions. But then I end the same as I began. Truth is, I do have that literal letter I want. I just need to learn how to navigate it.

It’s called God’s word, the Bible.

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Seek first the kingdom of God, and all these things (all these answers and solutions I want) shall be added to me. 🙂

Viernes, Octubre 14, 2016

Querido Diario,

Estar en paz no significa que todo alrededor mio va estar perfectamente como yo lo quiero. Significa que en medio de todo eso, voy a estar en paz porque mi cabeza descansa en el pecho del hombre que controla en mundo entero.

Cosas que nunca pensé que iban a pasar, han pasado. Preguntas necesitan respuestas, y a veces siento como si literalmente necesito un papel escrito por Dios donde me diga que es lo que debo hacer, o cual paso debo tomar.

Honestamente, han habido veces en que me acuesto en la cama y trato de lógicamente resolver problemas o encontrar soluciones. Pero termino igual. Pero a decir verdad, yo tengo esa carta que tanto  quisiera tener. Solo que tengo que aprender como navergarla.

Se llama la palabra de Dios, la Biblia.

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Busca primero el reino de Dios, y todas estas cosas (todas estas respuestas y soluciones que quiero) serán añadidas.  🙂

I Can’t Believe It, But I Said YES!

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I’m so excited about today! How do they say it? Hmmm, over the moon and stars happy? Lol! Yeah, that can describe it.

I’m happy that you and I have made it to the engagement phase!! Yeah, so I’ll be expecting my wedding invitation. And I also hope to say a few words at your wedding.

But here is the bad news: I know nothing about being engaged, so it seems you are on your own on this one.

Hahaha! JK! 😛 I still have things to say, so sit down, be quiet and keep reading.

ENGAGEMENT 

So, let me begin by saying that I imagine being engaged is just pure happiness. ❤ Having all those beautifully mixed emotions as you look at the man/woman who will very soon be your husband/wife. 🙂

Here are some things to keep in mind all the time:

1 Self-Control

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Sure, you are now engaged, and may have more physical privileges like hugging, kisses in the cheek or forehead, or holding hands; but respect each other and abide by the rules that you both have put up in order to protect each others thoughts and purity.

2 Pray Together

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This is something that should be practiced during courtship and marriage. I just think that praying along with the person that you love is just priceless.

3 Communicate

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Listen up guys! There is nothing more frustrating to us girls than to have a man who has a mouth, but does not communicate with us; and yet they expect to hear every little detail from us. Sure, we get to the bottom of things, and we probably already know things, but we always want to hear it from YOU.

4 Little Things Matter

You really don’t have to get us this huge overly expensive gift. For us girls, and guys too I think, sincere gifts from the heart are the ones that matter.

5 Visit!

Visit her family more often. Her/his family will very soon be yours, so they better like you or else you are doomed. No pressure! 😛 haha!

6 Be Yourself 

I know I just mentioned this now, but it is very important in the friends and courtship stage as well. Don’t give him/her a different image of who you are. If you cannot be yourself with this person, why are you going to marry them?? Later in married life, you will get tired of pretending, and what if he/she does not like the real  you?

7 Honesty

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Listen girls, this one is for you. Look, if your boyfriend can tell you to your face that your hair looks scary,and that those shoes make you look like a cat with a thorn on its paw, then he’s a keeper! You both have to be so comfortable with telling each other the truth straight on.

8 Trust

All through the friends and courtship stage, you have seen how amazing and trustworthy this person is. So in the engagement stage, all this will only be confirmed and reinforced. You will trust him/her to be faithful and loyal to you. And listen, when you truly love someone, a million models can coming knocking on your door, but you will only have eyes for your man/lady.

9 Keep Your Mouth Shut 

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This goes both to guys and girls, okay. Learn to keep secrets. If your man/girl confides in you something, there is no need for it to be heard all the way to the North Pole.

10 Boiling Water

And finally, do you know how to boil water in order to make tea or soup?

There is nothing worse than eating a cold peanut butter and jelly sandwich when you are sick. Unless, of course, it’s summer…then yes, that PB&J  would be nice. 😛 Lol! 

FYI This is how boiling water looks like 😛

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Christian Dating 101

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Friday, September 16, 2016

Advisory: Eligibility for Marriage Undergraduate Class. 

Prerequisite: Completion of Home Duties 101 and/or concurrent enrollment in Responsibility Course 102.

Age Requirement: 20 years or older

*Absolutely no crashing allowed in this class.

Student Learning Outcome (SLO)

  • Guarding of heart and feelings
  • Dangers of physical contact

Welcome to Christian Dating 101. My name is Professor Heidi Alonso, so let’s get started. Remember that there is no such thing as a dumb question here, so please ask away.

Let’s begin with the logics. What is dating? What is courtship? Any ideas?

Well, dating happens when one person goes out with several people in hopes of finding that one special person. And as you might well be aware of–because most of you have done it–many just date for fun. They don’t care if they play with people’s feelings, because they are not serious.

Now courting. What is the difference of it? Here is the definition given by J.D.

“Courting is the sincere effort of two persons who are finding if it is God’s will for them to be married.”

So yes, of course, courtship is one step closer to marriage. So you will obviously enter into a courtship with a wedding in mind. That is the whole purpose. And now, if you followed all the previous steps prior to this class, then there is a pretty good chance that the person you are courting ( or will court) will be your future spouse. Of course, it might not always work out. That is why you should guard your heart.

And what do I mean by that?

I mean that you should not give pieces of your heart away to just anyone. Don’t go around saying you love such said person out of emotion or mere impulse, because you will regret it later. As time passes, you will realize that you did not really love that person, or you will see that that person was not for you, and you will wish to turn back time in order to recover those words you told them.

And consider this: Wouldn’t it be so special to share those words for the first time with the person who will be your spouse?

Another point that I want to bring out, is the age requirement in order to even enter a courtship. As a rule of thumb, if you are still in your teens, you should be focusing on solving your algebra homework and feeding your pet fish instead of trying to enter this class.

As for you, my dear students in your twenties, please be careful when thinking to enter in a relationship with teenager students in the elementary classes. Teenagers do not really know who they are, or even what they want, because they change their mind so very often. One day they might wake up and decide they want to be a firefighter, but then later on they will announce they will be a brain surgeon.

Take me for example. In my teenage years, I was going back and forth between being a cook, a writer, a poet and songwriter. All survived except for poetry. Let me come up with something so you can see why I kissed poetry bye-bye.

The sky is so blue

Don’t you think so too?

Is it not nice,

To look at the sky

While eating a plate of rice?

You see what I mean? Like they say, I cannot write poetry to save my soul. But you get what I mean, right? You realize that if you court at such young age, or if you decide to court another young person, then your relationship will be ruined because of your/their immaturity. Either you, or that person, will still be figuring out who they are or what they want, and then later they will decide they don’t like you any more because you have green eyes or because of your personality. Bottom line is that you or they will keep changing their minds because at that stage, both of you are still developing emotionally.

To conclude, let’s talk about…yup, the physical stuff like kissing, touching and hugging.

Let’s start with the 00:00:05 second rule. 

Okay, get out your paper and pencils, write this down and frame it on your bedroom because it will be on the final test: I will not touch anybody for more than 5 seconds.

You got it? Good! You are such great students! I’m so proud of you. 😀

Okay, moving on.

Why should you not touch people? Well, first off, they don’t belong to you, and unless you have the key of marriage, you won’t be able to get them out the glass box they are in. Of course, I am not saying that kissing, touching or hugging is wrong. Not at all. It is wrong when you do that before marriage, because then it will lead to other things which you will later regret.

But that does not mean that if you are in an official courtship you can’t hug or hold hands. You understand that when you court, you are almost sure you are going to marry the person. And therefore, not court willy nilly. The physical contact is really up to the couple to decide, and they should put their physical boundaries. This might differ from couple to couple, since some individuals might need more restraint than others. However, it is scientifically proven how kissing affects the relationship. It is definitely a blessing within the circle of marriage, but outside of marriage it will affect both, or one of the parties involved in case the relationship does not work. Therefore, causing the breakup to be more painful since there will be physical and emotional losses involved.

So to end, please jot down these questions in your notebook for this class and turn them in for homework next time.

Wouldn’t it be special to share your first kiss with your husband/wife?

Do you think it will be nice to save all your love for your spouse?

Is it not purity the best and most beautiful gift you can give to your future spouse?

Okay, don’t forget to review for the upcoming test.

Class dismissed.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I Think I Found The One!! :D

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Friday, September 9, 2016

Dear Diary,

So what do I do now? What do I do if I think I have found a man who can potentially put up with me for the rest of my life? Do I like say something? Or like give him a hint?

Okay, okay–let me clarify. Those questions are just an example of the questions girls might have. It does not mean that I have them now. I might later; ya’ never know. 😛 Lol! But well, leave me out of the picture for now; let’s talk about step #4.

STEP #4: Observe, Seek Counsel, Be Wise, Be Friends

A) OBSERVE

Hmmm…so what exactly do we look at? What do we observe? Face, eyes, smile? Ehhh…nope.

If you think you have found the right girl/guy, then you should be observing other things. Of course, physical attraction should be there, but it should not be your main focus. You have to dissect that persons behavior. I mean, this is a person who could potentially be your future spouse, so then of course you want to know who they really are, right?

  • How does this person behave?
  • How does she/he treat her/his parents?
  • Is she’he respectful?
  • Is she/he helpful without being asked?
  • How does she/he behave when her/his parents are not around? Does she/he behave differently?
  • How does she/he behave around the company of other young people?
  • How do they treat the opposite sex? Do they have self-respect?

Open your eyes and observe well without making your interest known to that person as of yet. That way, you will be able to see the true colors of the person you got your eyes on.

B) SEEK COUNSEL

Yes, unless you are some kind of super genius and mind-reader ( jk mind-reading does not exist), then you will need advice from someone who is not emotionally involved and hence, has a clear mind than you do at the present moment. Because later, you will be like, “Ohhhhhh, I see now!”

And so where do you get that counsel from?

  1. God and His word
  2. God-fearing parents
  3. Older men and women of experience

Tip: Visit the church of the person you are interested in. That way, you can see how that person interacts in their home church. 

Girls DON’T READ, this is ONLY for the guys eyes: I once listened to a sermon that was about courtship and all that cool stuff. And what this person said has truth to it. He was saying how you should seek counsel with the parents of the girl. Let your intentions be known to them because they deserve to know. You have to realize that the girl belongs to her parents, and if you go on trying to win her affections without their permission, wouldn’t that be considered stealing?

Something to think about, guys.

C) BE WISE

Be logical when it comes to these matters. Think ahead. You can think clearly now, when there are not too much emotional attachments from your part.

D) BE FRIENDS

If you cannot be friends now, then how will your marriage work if you do marry that person later on? Your future spouse should be your best friend, right? So I think it is very important to be friends at first, and get some answers to your questions.

  • Do you both get along well?
  • If you fight all the time, what makes you think that married life will be pure bliss?
  • How does this person react in different situations?
  • Can you both work as a team and enjoy yourselves?
  • Is there that connection between the two of you?
  • Do you feel at home in her/his social circle?
  • Do you enjoy being around her/his friends?

And well, those are some of the many questions to be asked. Now, let’s talk about Facebook and chatting, and all that stuff.

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Yeah, I know, I know…this is a very tricky and controversial subject to many people. Just how much is too much on social media? Does it matter how often you chat with a girl/guy?

Well, it’s obvious that if you chat every single day, then there is something going on.

Listen, everyone has their own interpretations on this matter of Facebook and chatting. But let me tell you this: Be careful that you don’t toy with peoples emotions and feelings. If you are not interested in someone, then don’t act as if you do.

Be careful. That is all I will say, the rest is up to you. 🙂