Be a Child Again

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When we are little children, we usually have some pretty tough questions that our Mother might not be able to answer. At the moment I do not remember what were those questions I had when I was little, but I do remember that my Mom would always tell me this: “Heidita, I don’t know the answer, but Jesus does. Why don’t you ask Him?”

That is how from such a young age I always took my problems to Jesus, believing that He would answer. I would ask Him to help me find my favorite pen, or help me to finish my chores fast enough so I could go play outside.

Anyways, I was thinking on this yesterday as I cooked dinner. All day long it had been cloudy and overcast, and I was just wishing it would rain. So remembering those simple prayers of my childhood, I looked out the window and prayed in my mind: “Dear Lord, we really needs some rain. Can you send some?” I smiled and then continued with my soup.

Like a few minutes later, my little sister entered the kitchen yelling, “It’s raining, it’s raining!”

And then this morning, it was pouring!!

I sat in bed and opened my devotional This Day With God. And the title for the reading was “Childlike Faith.”

…We really have to be children again. We need to have that simple faith that God will hear us, even though it may seem like a  silly childish request.

When I was little, and my Dad would catch me in his arms, I trusted him fully that he would not let me fall or get hurt. I did not stop to calculate the height where I was in, and how far down my Dad was. I just threw myself. That is the way God wants us to trust in Him. No wonder He says that unless we are like little children, then only will we be able to enter to the kingdom of heaven.

And this is a picture I took this morning. 😃

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I Think I Found The One!! :D

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Friday, September 9, 2016

Dear Diary,

So what do I do now? What do I do if I think I have found a man who can potentially put up with me for the rest of my life? Do I like say something? Or like give him a hint?

Okay, okay–let me clarify. Those questions are just an example of the questions girls might have. It does not mean that I have them now. I might later; ya’ never know. 😛 Lol! But well, leave me out of the picture for now; let’s talk about step #4.

STEP #4: Observe, Seek Counsel, Be Wise, Be Friends

A) OBSERVE

Hmmm…so what exactly do we look at? What do we observe? Face, eyes, smile? Ehhh…nope.

If you think you have found the right girl/guy, then you should be observing other things. Of course, physical attraction should be there, but it should not be your main focus. You have to dissect that persons behavior. I mean, this is a person who could potentially be your future spouse, so then of course you want to know who they really are, right?

  • How does this person behave?
  • How does she/he treat her/his parents?
  • Is she’he respectful?
  • Is she/he helpful without being asked?
  • How does she/he behave when her/his parents are not around? Does she/he behave differently?
  • How does she/he behave around the company of other young people?
  • How do they treat the opposite sex? Do they have self-respect?

Open your eyes and observe well without making your interest known to that person as of yet. That way, you will be able to see the true colors of the person you got your eyes on.

B) SEEK COUNSEL

Yes, unless you are some kind of super genius and mind-reader ( jk mind-reading does not exist), then you will need advice from someone who is not emotionally involved and hence, has a clear mind than you do at the present moment. Because later, you will be like, “Ohhhhhh, I see now!”

And so where do you get that counsel from?

  1. God and His word
  2. God-fearing parents
  3. Older men and women of experience

Tip: Visit the church of the person you are interested in. That way, you can see how that person interacts in their home church. 

Girls DON’T READ, this is ONLY for the guys eyes: I once listened to a sermon that was about courtship and all that cool stuff. And what this person said has truth to it. He was saying how you should seek counsel with the parents of the girl. Let your intentions be known to them because they deserve to know. You have to realize that the girl belongs to her parents, and if you go on trying to win her affections without their permission, wouldn’t that be considered stealing?

Something to think about, guys.

C) BE WISE

Be logical when it comes to these matters. Think ahead. You can think clearly now, when there are not too much emotional attachments from your part.

D) BE FRIENDS

If you cannot be friends now, then how will your marriage work if you do marry that person later on? Your future spouse should be your best friend, right? So I think it is very important to be friends at first, and get some answers to your questions.

  • Do you both get along well?
  • If you fight all the time, what makes you think that married life will be pure bliss?
  • How does this person react in different situations?
  • Can you both work as a team and enjoy yourselves?
  • Is there that connection between the two of you?
  • Do you feel at home in her/his social circle?
  • Do you enjoy being around her/his friends?

And well, those are some of the many questions to be asked. Now, let’s talk about Facebook and chatting, and all that stuff.

*drum roll*

Yeah, I know, I know…this is a very tricky and controversial subject to many people. Just how much is too much on social media? Does it matter how often you chat with a girl/guy?

Well, it’s obvious that if you chat every single day, then there is something going on.

Listen, everyone has their own interpretations on this matter of Facebook and chatting. But let me tell you this: Be careful that you don’t toy with peoples emotions and feelings. If you are not interested in someone, then don’t act as if you do.

Be careful. That is all I will say, the rest is up to you. 🙂

 

 

Where is My Prince Charming?

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Friday, September 2, 2016

Dear Diary,

You really want to know something? I don’t want a Prince Charming who will charm me. A prince whose lips drop as honey comb and whose mouth is smoother than oil; but then later on I will end up drinking wormwood tea instead of a sweet cup of chamomile.

So yeah, I do hope this Prince Charming never crosses my path.

Anyways, let’s talk a little more on this subject: on finding the right person, and not just Prince Charming.

STEP #3: Whom Shall I Marry?

Wow, okay, so now that you know that you are ready, you want to know who is going to put up with you for the rest of your living days.

So what do you ask next?

Where is my Prince Charming, and my tall-dark-and-handsome? Hmm, not exactly. The next question you should ask is this: who does God have for me?

And well, after all we have discussed so far, I hope that you have well grounded in your brain the fact that you cannot choose for yourself. Sure, the people will tell you to follow your heart, but on the other hand, God says that our heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked. So, who will you follow, God or your wicked heart? Think about that.

And of course, there are other questions to consider. One of those many questions is this: Are you being the kind of person you are looking for? If you are looking for an honest person, are you honest? Are you a spiritual person?

You know, I once heard of a true story of a guy who had his dream girl all planned out. Time passed, and he did find her eventually. He told this girl about his feelings and how she was his perfect girl, but then the girl told him that he was not the perfect man for her.

Ouch! Poor guy! But it’s true, you know. Many times we get so caught up in daydreaming and planning our perfect person, that we forget about perfecting ourselves to the best we can for that person. Here is where true love is especially manifested in our willingness to change our defects of character, even if we don’t have the girl/guy, and even if we don’t even know who they are. Because I mean, if you are in love, you can easily promise to be saint #1.

But always remember that God will choose for you. Better said, you have to let God choose for you, because He will never force you.

Did Adam choose Eve? No.

Did Isaac choose his wife? No.

Did Samson choose his wife? Aha! Yes, he did. He said that Delilah pleased his eyes, and we all know what happened to his eyes later on. Don’t let that happen to you.

Many people just look at the physical part, but that should really be the last in your list. Character is the one to be focused on. This person you look for should complement you. You should have common interests and goals. Someone that you can work together with and enjoy it. Of course, you can’t find the same exact person as you, or else you will go crazy because if you both hate spiders, who will kill them for you? And if you are complete opposites, and hence have different tastes in music, then riding in the car with that person is going to be a pain in your ears.

I’m pretty sure that you can see that there needs to be a balance. And only God, along with your parents, can figure that out. God made you and He knows who will make you happy, and your parents know you more than you do yourself.

You also have to remember that your parents were given to you by God, and He will many times speaks to us through our god-fearing parents. And to end, I will give you the key that works pretty much for everything: PRAY WITHOUT CEASING.

Prayer does work, my friend. 🙂

 

 

Are You Ready?

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Friday, August 26, 2016

Dear Diary,

Here is step number two! I really learned a lot as I wrote and researched this topic. The two examples I used here in this article I got from Jeremiah Davis. He has some really awesome videos on YouTube. 🙂 

 

STEP #2 Am I Ready For Marriage? 

Okay, so now that you know you are to get married, this is the question you should ask. God might want you to get married, but before that happens, you might need a couple years of intense marriage training. No kidding.

Take a look at this example: A banana. They are very delicious, right? It’s a banana alright, and it is destined to be eaten and digested by a body of a human–or monkey. They are sweet and good, but what happens when they are eaten before they are ripe? Yeah, they don’t taste good and they leave a bad aftertaste, right? Well, the same principle goes for marriage. You might be married some day, but right now you might be sour and bitter–and so not ripe.

So, still the question remains: How do you know if you are ready?

Well, to answer this question, lets talk about a car. Now, I don’t know much about cars or brands, but I do know they have four wheels and two pedals: the gas and the brakes. So lets focus on the pedals for now.

Love=gas pedal     Self-Control=brakes

A good driver knows how to balance those two pedals. Therefore, you know you are ready for marriage if you can balance love and self-control.

How is love manifested?

“If you love me, keep my commandments”. So yes, love is manifested through willing obedience. Doing what we are asked to do, and even doing things without being asked. In married life, I don’t think your husband will be your walking chore-list telling and reminding you what has to be done; unless of course you have a very nice mother-in-law, then that would be very possible. Brace yourself! 😛 LOL!

And lastly, love is manifested through responsibility. Is the young man ready to be a spiritual leader in his home? Is he ready to provide? And for the ladies, are you ready to run a household all by yourself? Are you ready to raise children? Are you even ready emotionally? Listen, I don’t know nothing about marriage, but I’m pretty sure forgiveness is involved.

If a person is not responsible while living at their parents house, what makes you think that person will be ready for a home of their own?

Okay, so what about self-control? Well, self-control simply means that you are able to control yourself: your appetite, your emotions, your passions and everything else.

You know, I could really write so much more, but I don’t want to tire you, and plus I’m hungry and I need my dinner. Lol

So to end, let me ask you a question: how do you envision married life to be?

Do you imagine waking up to breakfast in bed, along with a rose and a love note? And for the guys, do you feel a sense of relief knowing that clean socks will magically appear in your drawer every morning, and that lunch will be waiting in the fridge with a love note?

Well, if that is what you envision married life to be, then you need some 10 years of preparation.

I think that married life is about making that other person happy, and of serving that person you love. You won’t think of what’s in it for you, but you will constantly seek to please that other person.

Now, I’m not saying that love notes and clean underwear are wrong. No, not at all. All I am trying to say is that if one envisions married life in a selfish way, then when one gets married, it will not work out.

That is what I think. If I am wrong, then I hope a married person corrects me.

Thanks for reading! 🙂

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How to Get Married In 7 Easy Steps

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Friday, August 19, 2016

Dear Diary,

Ya’ think it’s easy to get married?? Nope! Behold, my summarized version of step #1. 😉 

I am finding myself writing once again about relationships, courtship and marriage. It does feel a little weird, you know, writing about something better left for a married person to write or talk about. But here I am, 21 year old girl who thinks she is a genius on these matters.

Hehehe! No, no, no. I don’t think I am a genius at all, I was just kidding. All I am doing here is sharing all the counsel and advice my ears and eyes have soaked up so far. And well, I got inspired to write about this because I see that a lot of people need this advice; and I include myself as well.

You know, I have seen failed courtships, broken marriages; couples who are still together, but they lead miserable and depressing lives, single mothers–you name it! And I keep thinking to myself that maybe, through what I write, I can help someone out there. Even if it is one single person, I still want to make a difference in their life and help them.

So yeah, you need advice when it comes to these matters. I need advice. I have made my fair share of mistakes as well. I am no little saint. And I made these mistakes not because nobody counseled and advised me. I was thoroughly counseled, I just thought that my way had more sparkly flowers.

Okay, so lets get right on with the topic I want to touch on today. And yes, I know…I know, you might think that I am now sounding like your parents. Well, If I do sound like that, I am very happy; that just let’s me know I am on the right track with what I’m writing here 😉

STEP #1: Is God Calling You/Me to Marriage? 

Yes, that is the question that we should ask first. The first question to be asked is not with who, or when will I be married. We need to seek God’s will first and foremost. I mean, for all I know, God might want you to be a spinster–I mean single. There are several examples in the Bible of people who remained single. You got Paul, John the Baptist, Elijah, and even Jesus was not married.

Why were they not married? Does the Bible not say that we are to replenish the earth, and that a man should not be alone?

It was God’s plan for them not to be married. Simple as that. The apostle Paul even recommends that one remain single. But he also understood that not everyone has been called to a single life. And you can read this verse in 1 Corinthians 7:6-9

These great men that I have mentioned had such an amazing work to carry out. I believe that if they had married, they would not have been able to do that work properly. That is why before we marry, we have to ask ourselves if being married will increase our sphere of usefulness for the Lord. Or will we get married and then all of a sudden we don’t even want to go to prayer meeting because there are dishes to be washed?

God has a beautiful and unique plan for each and every one of us. It might be God’s will that you don’t marry just now. And that brings me to another question: Is it God’s will for you to be married NOW? God might want you to get married, but you might still need a good heavy dose of preparation. I mean, one can be 70 years old and not be ready for marriage. And yeah, that explains why there are so many divorces and separations nowadays.

So get on your knees and seek God’s will. Speak with God through prayer and work on building that relationship with Him before you begin any relationship with a human being. Ask of God His will and He will show you. Search His word, because that is the guidebook that will lead you and me in this life.

I know by experience that God will never send you away empty-handed if you seek him with a sincere heart.

In a Relationship With…

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Friday, August 12, 2016

Dear Diary,

Did you think I was in a relationship? Lol! Nope, not at all. Well, I am-but we will talk about that later. 🙂 I just chose this title because everyone is familiar with it, and you know what it means. Okay, on with the writing.

You know, dinnertime at my house is really something. It’s that time of the day when my whole family gets together to enjoy each others company and the food as well, even if it tastes a little weird ( I mean, there have been times where I don’t know how to make my food disappear). Anyways, during dinnertime a lot of things happen: we talk about what happened during the day, someone might get scolded for not doing some work they had to do, we laugh when my brother tries to guess who made the food, we talk about church events or just plain local church planning, I might 99% of the time tease my brother about something; if someone is sick, my Dad and I talk about natural remedies or share our latest discoveries, and my favorite is when my Dad gives us older siblings advice on certain topics.

And well, for the past three days, my Dad has been giving us advice on the subject of relationships–you know, guys and girls, and Facebook chatting and all that drama. I thought about this long, and I really felt impressed to share all the advice my Dad has given me. I know that there might be some of you who were not blessed with godly parents, and so this might be of some help to you. So here it goes.

#1 EVERYTHING HAS A SEASON

Once we were children (blessed stage of life! I wish I could go back), but now we are young adults. With it comes many changes to our bodies, new weird feelings, urges and–well, you know what I mean. No need for me to explain this area.

But sometimes, as my Dad says, one tends to rush everything, especially when it comes to relationships. One should really take it easy. Relationships and courting are serious issues. One should really know the other persons character. Know how that person reacts in various situations. Take this scenario for example: suppose you are a girl and you have your guy whom you love very much. But you want to know how he reacts when he is mad, because so far he is as happy and sweet as cotton candy. And suppose you hire some stranger to break an egg on his head. How will he react? Will he scream and be like, “You are going to pay for this!”, or will he be like, “Hey thanks! My hair will really start growing faster now!” (By the way, egg does make your hair grow faster, but I’ll not get into that Lol!)

Always remember that good looks and a good body will go away pretty soon unless, of course, you make your future spouse sign a contract to go to the gym three times per week or something. Character is what remains. And you have to ask yourself if you are willing to live with such a character for the rest of your living days. That is the reason why it is very wise for two persons to be just and ONLY friends before anything happens.That way you can really know that persons character without them trying to put our only their pretty side. You really want to get to know ‘the good, the bad and the ugly’. And well, if after some long time of being friends you realize that you have feelings for such said person, and you know that your parents approve, and you are sure that God is leading in that direction, then, by all means, take it to the next level.

So yeah, don’t rush things. And don’t feel alone when it seems that the whole world around you is in relationships, and getting engaged and married. God has the right person for you out there–somewhere. You just have to be patient and wait on the Lord.

#2 ONLY TIME WILL TELL

Yup, when it comes to relationships, time is your best friend. Time reveals many things: character, secrets, lies, true love, intentions, motives–you name it!

Here is a little advice for you my fellow girls. My parents always tell me this: “If the guy really cares about you, and has true motives/intentions/feelings, he will respect and wait and not rush things. He will get to know you well, and us too.”

#3 DON’T BE TOO TRUSTING, BUT NOT TOO UN-TRUSTING EITHER

I know this to be very true. Do not be too trusting, but still that does not mean that you are going to live with a  constant senseless fear of “oh my goodness, he is going to cheat on me”, or “I refuse to trust men ever again.” No. It simply means that one should have a little space reserved for the bad. In other words, be prepared for the worse. One should be aware that things might not work out, that humans are humans and will hence make mistakes. If one is well aware of this, and it happens that things do not work out, then you will not be severely broken. You know, I have heard of cases of people attempting suicide because of a broken heart.

#4 LISTEN

*sigh* Listening. This is probably the last thing we do, and in reality it should be the first. We have to listen to counsel and not stuff our ears with artificial earwax. We might think that we are some cool geniuses on life experience, but in reality we are just children who are in need of direction.

So yeah, all of us single people, and also to those who are in relationships or engaged, let’s put on our thinking caps and listen to all the counsel and advice we can get our hands on, and not end up making wrong choices that we will regret for the rest of our lives.

So let’s finish writing the title, shall we.

In a relationship with Jesus Christ.

Yes, that is the person you should be in a relationship with before you even think on courtship or marriage.

 

 

 

 

Wings of Prayer

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Thursday, May 19, 2016

Dear Diary,

Has it ever happened to you that your day is going so well, and then something happens and for the rest of the day that thing that happened casts a gloom over you? 😦

Well, I know how that goes. It has happened to me several times. But you know something? I thank God for those moments. 🙂 They show me so much about myself. Those moments are the moments in which it shows me just how much I rely and trust on God.

And well, like they say, physician cure yourself.

I remembered this small poem I wrote several years ago. I was probably around 13 years old when I wrote this.

Wings of Prayer

When sorrow stabs our hearts with grief,

And life is full of care,

What loving comfort waits upon the wings of prayer;

The wings of prayer, precious prayer.

 

Cast your burden upon the Lord,

Your faithful friend,

For He will never leave you, even till the earth’s end.

Trust in His promises and word.

 

And in life’s journey,

As we wait to have the crown of life upon our brow,

The wings of prayer bring us closer to Christ,

In this world of sin and strife.