The Perfect Size

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*giggly sigh*

Oh my goodness! Am I the only one who goes to the clothing store and gets all the sizes wrong? Please tell me I am not. ;P

Well, I went to the store the other day, and I did a little shopping spree 😉 I found some really good deals on sweaters, and I got one for everyone. Even my little puppy almost got one, but they did not have his size ( That is about the only size I got right! haha).

So, I got one for my Mom and Dad and eagerly brought it home for them. I don’t know about you, but when my siblings and I were little–little of age, not height ;)–we were taught to work for what we wanted. We never asked or whined for money from my parents. So it was a very great accomplishment to whip out like 2 dollars and bring home a box of cereal bars. Made me feel like an adult and like I was contributing. I suppose that you can say that I still have a little of that in me; that feeling of satisfaction of contributing to the household in any way I can, and boy do I love giving gifts.

Yeah, so the sweaters I got them were way too big. Here I was thinking that they just would not wear them because c’mon, who would want to wear a baggy sack of potatoes? Well, that was a Sunday, and on Sabbath we went to church and was I surprised to see my parents both wear the sweaters I bought them! I really thought they would just probably wear them around the house per say, but no. Here they are walking to church all looking proud.

Dad to my Mom: I really like this sweater. Pretty warm and not heavy at all.

Guys, I don’t know what I felt. It just made me so warm and happy to see them like my gift even though I screwed up on the sizes. They were just so proud to wear what I gave them.

And I think it is the same with God. You do not have to pretend or be perfect  in order for Him to accept you. He accepts you just the way you are, and then He is just so proud to walk with you and tell the whole wide world that you are His son/daughter.

Isn’t that amazing?!

 

 

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Already 13: Drama and More Drama

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Yup, my little sister is now gone from single numbers to those dreaded double digits. I just can’t believe that she is now a teenager! Yeah, yeah, I’m already getting programmed for those years ahead. I mean, we all know how it goes: boys, drama, best friend drama and–I’ll just stop there. Lol!

But I will say that I was truly blessed with the best little sister, and I do look forward to helping guide her in the right path and being a good example for her. I want to see her grow up to be a beautiful god-fearing girl. 🙂

Anyways, yesterday morning my sisters and I were already having breakfast when my Mom came out of her bedroom. She went about her usual routine that I began to wonder if she had forgotten it was Daisy’s birthday. I mean, usually whenever it is one of our birthday’s, she comes and hugs us first thing in the morning; but today was different. So I got up from my seat and motioned my Mom to her room.

Me: Mom, do you remember what day it is?

Mom: (smiles) I know, it’s Daisy’s birthday. I have not forgotten. How could I? Everyday I remember, and it still hurts. I could never forget my children. You will understand one day.

That stuck with me the rest of the day and it just filled me with such awe…a love that never forgets. No wonder God compares a mother’s love with the love and care He has for us!

A mother would gladly die in her child’s place, and you know something? Jesus already did that for you and me.

 

“Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget thee.” Isaiah 49:15 KJV

P.S.

Oh yeah, I’m back! 😛 Sweet winter break! I promise I’ll be here at least till my last semester in college. Haha! Love you guys!

“Lord, I Love Him. Why Can’t I Have Him?”

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“Lord, you know I really love him. I believe he is the one. Why can’t I have him??”

“But Dad/Mom, what’s so wrong with him? I’m happy with him. Doesn’t my happiness matter to you guys anymore?” 

“Why is it that the guy I really like is exactly the one that seems impossible to have?” 

Sound familiar? 

Maybe you have heard some young people say this, or…yourself? 

Well, I got the idea for this topic the other day when I was talking to a good friend of mine. We were sharing our views on choice making, relationships, and on how many times we misinterpret God.

…yes, it is possible to misinterpret God. For example, take a look at this scenario: 

Let’s suppose you like this guy, or girl, so much. But here’s the deal: your parents don’t approve at all. And somewhere in the back of your head, you know God would not approve either. But being the amazingly stubborn person that you are, you still go to God and beg and complain. It then happens that God gets fed up, and so He says, “Okay. Fine. You can have him/her.” And then you are like, “Oh my goodness! God answered my prayer! I knew this guy was the one!” But the truth is that God is giving you what you want not because it is His will, but because you will only learn by suffering the consequences. 

Listen, when it comes to relationships, making life choices and pretty much everything, you NEED to come to God with a clean bowl. Don’t bring your choice of flour or oil. Just bring your clean bowl and allow God to give you the ingredients and utensils to make the perfect cake. 🎂 

“Trust in the lord with all thine heart,

And lean not to thine own understanding.

In all thy ways acknowledge Him,

And He shall direct thy paths.” 

The Relationship I NEVER Expected

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During this week, I heard one person say that the best and lasting relationship is the one you never expected.

Do you think this is true?

I honestly have been thinking about this a lot, and so I decided to ask several of my friends about their opinion on this matter. (Later when I get more responses, I will edit in their opinions.)

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 “Yes I do think that it’s best when you are not really looking for a relationship…there is something about providence being involved in a relationship that makes it that much better, as it keeps you on the edge of your seat because–generally speaking–we pray for God’s will to be done, so that means we have to be aware of what is taking place around us at all times because we want to make sure that God is leading in our relationships…I do think that it is better to have an unexpected encounter than to have one where you are “looking for” or expecting to be in a relationship…many times we make a mistake in using to much of our strength and time in looking to be in that “perfect” relationship.” S.G

“God is always in control of the future, and His plans are not always our plans. So yes, a relationship you never expected is the best one.” R.D

“I don’t see any connection with the best and longest relationships having anything to do with us expecting them or not. But I’d say our best relationships are the ones that God unites together. Sometimes we expect it sometimes we don’t.” Enoch Leffingwell

“There are “miracles”, which we know are not “miracles”, they are God’s mighty ways, that we can’t even imagine…” M.B

“I do agree that the relationships that develop spontaneously do end up working out better than those which were planned or pursued. Like the verse says: God’s plans are not your plans. That is what we need to keep in mind when thinking of relationships and other aspects of life.” S.A.J.N

If you’ve had a failed relationship in which you built countless straw castles, then I am pretty sure that you now know that the best relationship is not the one you expected or planned–it will be the one that you gladly accepted as a gift, wrapped in the gift paper of trust in God.

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LordFor as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:8-9

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Are Christians Allowed to Feel Heartbroken? (PART 2)

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HOW DO YOU BUILD TRUST KEEPING WITHIN BIBLICAL STANDARDS? 

You know, even God gives us evidence. He invites us to try Him.

Psalms 34:8 

“O taste and see that the Lord is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him.” 

And how do we build that relationship with God? By daily communication. You pray, you share and read His word, right?

Now let’s translate that to a relationship.

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In a relationship, you talk with your special someone, you share your dreams, your likes and dislikes, you get to know one another, and you diligently and quickly read those texts and messages that he/she sends, right?

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And just like with God, that trust is built on evidence and proof. By and by you see how that person is. Things will happen along the way that will allow you to see just how true this person is. And then will come that time when you look at that person and know that it is okay to trust him/her, while still being very aware of the fact that he/she is human, and like you, can make mistakes.

You CANNOT trust a human as you would with God. God is all powerful and will never fail you. Go ahead and name one time in which God failed His promise. He NEVER has, and never will.

Okay, so…

SHOULD CHRISTIANS FEEL HEARTBROKEN? 

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John 11:35 “Jesus wept.” 

Matthew 27:46 ” And about the ninth hour Jesus cried with a loud voice, saying, Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani? that is to say, My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?” 

Jesus did feel heartbroken. He felt heartbroken because of the great love He had for us; for you and me. He could not bear the thought of losing us.

His heartbreak, on the other hand, cannot be compared to the heartbreak that we humans feel. The nature of our heartbreak goes something like this

*I will never trust men ever again because so and so broke my heart

*I am not going to talk to her/him again because he betrayed me, he/she does not deserve to my friend

*He/she does not deserve my ‘hello’

*I hate him/her

*I am going to unfriend him/her, and block him/her from Facebook

Now take a look at how Jesus looks at it:

Zechariah 13:6 “And one shall say unto him, What are these wounds in thine hands? Then he shall answer, Those with which I was wounded in the house of my friends.” 

Revelation 3:20 “Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.” 

John 15:13 “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” 

Luke 12:7 “But even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not therefore: ye are of more value than many sparrows.” 

Isaiah 54:10 “For the mountains shall depart, and the hills be removed; but my kindness shall not depart from thee, neither shall the covenant of my peace be removed, saith the LORD that hath mercy on the” 

Isaiah 49:15-16 ” Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget thee. Behold, I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands; thy walls are continually before me.” 

Yes, we can feel heartbroken, we will feel sad and discouraged–we will cry; but we will also be able to forgive and not fall apart because our stronghold is on God.

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Matthew 18:21-22 “Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.” 

 

He/She Broke My Heart

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Heartbroken…

Just how does one avoid being heartbroken?

Well, for starters, if we hear counsel, then we would not be in this jumble of problems in the first place. I know that if you hear counsel, then you will avoid yourself many heartaches—believe me. Your parents are right 99% of the time. And I say 99% because your parents can be wrong about a person too. There are some guys who just seem like saints come down from heaven, but then as time goes on, you and parents really get to see who this Mr. Too-Good-To-Be-True really is; or Miss Too-Good-To-Be-True.

But well, the heartbreak is there now. And you feel like all your world has crashed beneath your feet. Your dreams hold no significance anymore, you try to find a reason to get up from bed, and you literally feel like you are in a place where you don’t know where to go or what to do.

You feel lost without this person in your life.

Well, first thing you have to do is stop thinking about all this hurt. What happened already happened, and it’s past. There is nothing more cruel that you can do to yourself, than to continue living in the past. Leave the past alone, pick up your dreams and look to the future. Why will you drown all your hopes and dreams, all because of a person who did not deserve your love?

Another thing to keep in mind is this: do not go publishing your hurt in Facebook. That will only spark a chain reaction of “oh! So sorry to hear that! 😥 .” And all that will do, is put you down. But in order to avoid that, you should not have made your relationship public in Facebook in the first place. As a rule of thumb, I recommend that you not publish anything until your relationship is like SUPER serious. It’s going to hurt you so much to delete all those pictures in Facebook and…you can imagine.

Also, try to help others; don’t go into a reclusive life in order to mourn your misfortune. As you help others, and make others happy, you will find that your heart will heal. Slowly, that smile will come back to your face, and you will realize that you were put on this world for a very special purpose.

You can also take up a hobby to keep you busy. But please don’t go crazy and decide that skydiving is the best way to forget your troubles.

And well, even after all the tips I have given you, the only person who can really heal your heart is God. As your relationship grows stronger with God, you will see in clear light why that relationship failed, and why you had to go through it. You will realize that the heartbreak will only make you stronger and wiser. The next time another guy/girl comes knocking on your door, you will not so easily fall for their charm.

Just remember this: YOU ARE SPECIAL, and the person that is meant for you is somewhere around there, and he/she will come at the right moment. Don’t accept the first guy/girl that shows interest in you. Of course, there is a possibility that that person might be the right one, but what I’m trying to say is that you SHOULD NOT ENTER A RELATIONSHIP just because you FEEL LONELY.

Your heart will heal. Trust me, it will—slowly but surely.

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This article was written in response to a request I received from one of my readers in India. This person asked my opinion on how to deal with heartbreak, and so I thought it was a great idea to share this with all of you. 🙂  

Once Upon a Time…Happily Ever After

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Funny how a newlywed will tell you that marriage is amazing and beautiful, and then a couple years later, that selfsame person will beg you to really think before getting involved with a guy.

It has happened to me. Lol!

Truth is that marriage takes work. It will not always be roses and kisses. But working together as a team, supporting and loving each other, and seeking God first– well, it’s going to work out nicely.

So, just to make your life easier, here are some things to keep in mind:

FOR THE GUYS:

1 If the tube of toothpaste has a cap, USE IT. Hardened and dry toothpaste is not cool to use.

2) Put the toilet seat back down after you use it. If your wife falls in the toilet in the night, there is a 99.9% chance that you will be sleeping in the couch for the rest of the night, or nights.

3) NEVER set foot on her wet clean floor. Don’t dirty the floor she just scrubbed, that is if you don’t want to scrub it again, but this time with a toothbrush 😛 Lol!

4) Clean up those pesky little hairs after you shave. It’s annoying when the white bar of soap looks as if it has black sprinkles on it, or brown or blonde. Take your pick. 

5) ALWAYS let your wife know if you are bringing friends or visitors home, that way she has time to cook something. Serving peanut butter and jelly sandwiches is not exactly what we ladies have in mind.

6) When girls are on their monthly cycle, we can be sad, mad, happy, nostalgic and emotional all in the span of one hour. Plus we have to deal with pain and whatnot. So DON’T BE A COWARD and leave your wife alone. Be nice to her. Make her some hot tea and cuddle with her. ❤

7) Most girls take long to get ready. It’s hard for us to decide what to wear, and hairstyle to do; so instead of hollering to your wife at the top of your lungs for her to hurry up, do this the night/day before:

You: Hey sweetheart, do you think the yellow tie goes with this?

Her: White shirt, black pants and yellow tie? Honey, are you tying to go for the bumblebee look?

You: *laughing* What do you suggest then?

Her: Hmmm…let me see. Ah, this one is perfect!

You: Oh yes, perfect! I don’t know what I’d do without you. By the way, what will you wear? I think that blue dress looks lovely on you, plus it will match with my tie.

Her: Awwww, that’s right! We will match ^_^

There you have it. Problem solved. You are welcome.

8) Listen to your wife.

9) I understand that guys suffer from innate dementia, but at least try to remember her birthday, your wedding day, the day you met and the day you first messaged her on Facebook.

FOR THE GIRLS:

1) Guys don’t think on what they say when they are hungry, so if your husband says something that bothered you, don’t take it to heart because he did not mean that.

2) Men are capable of sitting down, think on nothing and do nothing; so don’t worry, they are not in comma.

3) DON’T mess with his toolbox.

4) Here is how to get your husband to fix that wobbly chair in the dining room: go to his beloved toolbox and try to fix it yourself. In a couple seconds, you will see him come running to your rescue–more like to the rescue of his tools 😛 But no, really; guys like to feel useful, so let him do it, and then go make him some lemonade.

5) Guys nature is to fix things, including you. So, don’t get mad when he tries to fix your problems and emotions. He’s just trying to help.

6) NEVER give a command to your husband because he will plop down in the couch and do nothing. The last thing a man wants is to feel manipulated. So just ask him to help you because you need him. He will listen to you. 🙂

7) Most of the times, your husband will not tell you that he is bringing his friends or visitors over, so always have something fast to cook.

8) You know, your man might forget your birthday, or the day and hour when you first met, but rest assured that he will NEVER FORGET that he loves you. So if he forgets, don’t hold it against him.

9) In my experience with men, aka my Dad and brother lol, they don’t distinguish things. The whole idea of lotions, perfumes and body mists are junk to them. For them, all you need is water, a bar of Irish Spring soap and deodorant. Therefore, keep your products out of your husbands reach before he uses your face wash as degreaser, your body mists as bathroom air fresheners and your lotion as shaving cream. 😉

10) When it comes to getting sick, men are pros at that. So don’t worry so much when he has a sore throat, but he keeps acting like if he is slipping away.

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