How To Be a True Adult

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Being an adult is some pretty serious stuff. Let’s face it, there are some who are physically adult, but the mental part is off because they act like a bunch of kids in kindergarten. I know, I find it amusing to watch as well! 

Okay, so you came here to see how to be an adult, right? Got it. Let’s begin. 

Oh…well, you must know that there are many facets of being an adult. I won’t be able to cover them all here at once, but I’ll cover one of them.

1 Don’t be a people pleaser.

My grandmother used to say this: You will never keep people happy. So just make sure you please the only person that matters, and that person is God. 

She was right.

People will always have something to say. If you didn’t do it, they will be mad because you did not do it. And if you had done it, they would still be mad because you did do it. So here’s what you do: just take your pick. Do what you believe is right, people will be mad anyways. Hahaha! 😂

Bottom line is this: don’t argue like a bunch of spoiled kids. They might be wrong and you might be in the right reason, but you have to be the bigger person. You probably might have to apologize when you did nothing wrong, but if it will keep the peace, why not do it? Why not be a peacemaker? 

How to Get Married In 7 Easy Steps

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Friday, August 19, 2016

Dear Diary,

Ya’ think it’s easy to get married?? Nope! Behold, my summarized version of step #1. 😉 

I am finding myself writing once again about relationships, courtship and marriage. It does feel a little weird, you know, writing about something better left for a married person to write or talk about. But here I am, 21 year old girl who thinks she is a genius on these matters.

Hehehe! No, no, no. I don’t think I am a genius at all, I was just kidding. All I am doing here is sharing all the counsel and advice my ears and eyes have soaked up so far. And well, I got inspired to write about this because I see that a lot of people need this advice; and I include myself as well.

You know, I have seen failed courtships, broken marriages; couples who are still together, but they lead miserable and depressing lives, single mothers–you name it! And I keep thinking to myself that maybe, through what I write, I can help someone out there. Even if it is one single person, I still want to make a difference in their life and help them.

So yeah, you need advice when it comes to these matters. I need advice. I have made my fair share of mistakes as well. I am no little saint. And I made these mistakes not because nobody counseled and advised me. I was thoroughly counseled, I just thought that my way had more sparkly flowers.

Okay, so lets get right on with the topic I want to touch on today. And yes, I know…I know, you might think that I am now sounding like your parents. Well, If I do sound like that, I am very happy; that just let’s me know I am on the right track with what I’m writing here 😉

STEP #1: Is God Calling You/Me to Marriage? 

Yes, that is the question that we should ask first. The first question to be asked is not with who, or when will I be married. We need to seek God’s will first and foremost. I mean, for all I know, God might want you to be a spinster–I mean single. There are several examples in the Bible of people who remained single. You got Paul, John the Baptist, Elijah, and even Jesus was not married.

Why were they not married? Does the Bible not say that we are to replenish the earth, and that a man should not be alone?

It was God’s plan for them not to be married. Simple as that. The apostle Paul even recommends that one remain single. But he also understood that not everyone has been called to a single life. And you can read this verse in 1 Corinthians 7:6-9

These great men that I have mentioned had such an amazing work to carry out. I believe that if they had married, they would not have been able to do that work properly. That is why before we marry, we have to ask ourselves if being married will increase our sphere of usefulness for the Lord. Or will we get married and then all of a sudden we don’t even want to go to prayer meeting because there are dishes to be washed?

God has a beautiful and unique plan for each and every one of us. It might be God’s will that you don’t marry just now. And that brings me to another question: Is it God’s will for you to be married NOW? God might want you to get married, but you might still need a good heavy dose of preparation. I mean, one can be 70 years old and not be ready for marriage. And yeah, that explains why there are so many divorces and separations nowadays.

So get on your knees and seek God’s will. Speak with God through prayer and work on building that relationship with Him before you begin any relationship with a human being. Ask of God His will and He will show you. Search His word, because that is the guidebook that will lead you and me in this life.

I know by experience that God will never send you away empty-handed if you seek him with a sincere heart.

In a Relationship With…

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Friday, August 12, 2016

Dear Diary,

Did you think I was in a relationship? Lol! Nope, not at all. Well, I am-but we will talk about that later. 🙂 I just chose this title because everyone is familiar with it, and you know what it means. Okay, on with the writing.

You know, dinnertime at my house is really something. It’s that time of the day when my whole family gets together to enjoy each others company and the food as well, even if it tastes a little weird ( I mean, there have been times where I don’t know how to make my food disappear). Anyways, during dinnertime a lot of things happen: we talk about what happened during the day, someone might get scolded for not doing some work they had to do, we laugh when my brother tries to guess who made the food, we talk about church events or just plain local church planning, I might 99% of the time tease my brother about something; if someone is sick, my Dad and I talk about natural remedies or share our latest discoveries, and my favorite is when my Dad gives us older siblings advice on certain topics.

And well, for the past three days, my Dad has been giving us advice on the subject of relationships–you know, guys and girls, and Facebook chatting and all that drama. I thought about this long, and I really felt impressed to share all the advice my Dad has given me. I know that there might be some of you who were not blessed with godly parents, and so this might be of some help to you. So here it goes.

#1 EVERYTHING HAS A SEASON

Once we were children (blessed stage of life! I wish I could go back), but now we are young adults. With it comes many changes to our bodies, new weird feelings, urges and–well, you know what I mean. No need for me to explain this area.

But sometimes, as my Dad says, one tends to rush everything, especially when it comes to relationships. One should really take it easy. Relationships and courting are serious issues. One should really know the other persons character. Know how that person reacts in various situations. Take this scenario for example: suppose you are a girl and you have your guy whom you love very much. But you want to know how he reacts when he is mad, because so far he is as happy and sweet as cotton candy. And suppose you hire some stranger to break an egg on his head. How will he react? Will he scream and be like, “You are going to pay for this!”, or will he be like, “Hey thanks! My hair will really start growing faster now!” (By the way, egg does make your hair grow faster, but I’ll not get into that Lol!)

Always remember that good looks and a good body will go away pretty soon unless, of course, you make your future spouse sign a contract to go to the gym three times per week or something. Character is what remains. And you have to ask yourself if you are willing to live with such a character for the rest of your living days. That is the reason why it is very wise for two persons to be just and ONLY friends before anything happens.That way you can really know that persons character without them trying to put our only their pretty side. You really want to get to know ‘the good, the bad and the ugly’. And well, if after some long time of being friends you realize that you have feelings for such said person, and you know that your parents approve, and you are sure that God is leading in that direction, then, by all means, take it to the next level.

So yeah, don’t rush things. And don’t feel alone when it seems that the whole world around you is in relationships, and getting engaged and married. God has the right person for you out there–somewhere. You just have to be patient and wait on the Lord.

#2 ONLY TIME WILL TELL

Yup, when it comes to relationships, time is your best friend. Time reveals many things: character, secrets, lies, true love, intentions, motives–you name it!

Here is a little advice for you my fellow girls. My parents always tell me this: “If the guy really cares about you, and has true motives/intentions/feelings, he will respect and wait and not rush things. He will get to know you well, and us too.”

#3 DON’T BE TOO TRUSTING, BUT NOT TOO UN-TRUSTING EITHER

I know this to be very true. Do not be too trusting, but still that does not mean that you are going to live with a  constant senseless fear of “oh my goodness, he is going to cheat on me”, or “I refuse to trust men ever again.” No. It simply means that one should have a little space reserved for the bad. In other words, be prepared for the worse. One should be aware that things might not work out, that humans are humans and will hence make mistakes. If one is well aware of this, and it happens that things do not work out, then you will not be severely broken. You know, I have heard of cases of people attempting suicide because of a broken heart.

#4 LISTEN

*sigh* Listening. This is probably the last thing we do, and in reality it should be the first. We have to listen to counsel and not stuff our ears with artificial earwax. We might think that we are some cool geniuses on life experience, but in reality we are just children who are in need of direction.

So yeah, all of us single people, and also to those who are in relationships or engaged, let’s put on our thinking caps and listen to all the counsel and advice we can get our hands on, and not end up making wrong choices that we will regret for the rest of our lives.

So let’s finish writing the title, shall we.

In a relationship with Jesus Christ.

Yes, that is the person you should be in a relationship with before you even think on courtship or marriage.

 

 

 

 

My Mother :)

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Tuesday, May 10, 2016

Dear Diary,

I just wanted to take some time to tell the world that I have the Best Mother ever!! She has taught me so many things, and it’s because of her that I am the person I am now. I admire her for the courage that she had to home-school my siblings and I, even though people thought she was crazy for doing so. Looking back, I know and am 100% sure that I received the best education. And that education that I got as a child, is the education that has been with me as I have grown up, and that has helped me in all the challenging times I have been through.

Here are some of the many things my Mom taught me:

1  You don’t wash white clothes with dark clothes. (I sorta learned that the hard way, but hey, a white shirt turned pink does not look so bad.)

2 If the beans are too salty, add a potato to absorb the extra salt.

3 The only person you ought to imitate is God.

4 Be who you are all the time.

5 Pray.

6 Always be helpful.

7 Do everything to the honor and glory of God.

8 How to wash clothes by hand.

9 How to cook in an open fire.

10 Dress modestly.

You know, I could really go on with the list. What I mentioned is only like 3% of all she has taught me.

And yes, I am still learning; you know I am no saint. But having a god-fearing mother is one of the biggest blessings I have been blessed with.

I ❤ you Mom! And when I grow up, I pray that I be a good mother just like you 🙂

Look, I read this quote this morning, and I liked it so much that I had to share:

“The early education of youth generally shapes their characters for life.” E.G.W

 

Not All is Lost

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You know, sometimes words fail me to describe just how much I love rain. The pattering sound of it on the windows, and not to mention the wonderful smell that arises after the first few drops. Simply amazing!

So yes, with that thought in mind, I shall now recount what happened a few hours ago. Better said, let’s begin a little earlier, shall we?

Okay, so yesterday, I was looking at some videos and pictures that a friend send me. And yes, you guessed it, they were about rain! And by the way, the feature image is one of those awesome pictures my friend send me. Isn’t it pretty?! Anyways, back to the story. So I thought it would be nice if I wrote something related to rain, and how it can be applied to our lives. But I was having a hard time figuring out the “application” part.

So a few hours ago, I was chatting with this awesome friend of mine, and I asked what ideas he could give me. And guess what? (This part is so cool, pay attention.) Here is what he said:

Topic: Rain

Application: “It has rained when we thought it wouldn’t. God has blessed us with showers of blessings; not all is lost.”

He gave me the application part I was having trouble with! Thank you for that my friend 🙂

And it’s true, not all is lost. The desert plants that were dry and yellow in color, are now back to their glorious green state. And so it may be with your life. You may be going through difficult times, and you may feel that you are ready to fall. Maybe you have already fallen, but even though you have fallen, do not stop moving. I have been there, and I know what it feels like. But like I already said, ‘not all is lost’. Have faith because God will surely send showers of blessings.

To conclude, I’d like to share an excerpt from my diary that I wrote while going through a rough time not too long ago. And I truly hope that these may be your words as well:

I know by present experience that it is not easy to trust when one is not sure of the next step. But the promise is that no matter how dark the path may seem, we have the assurance that our answers will come at the right moment. And presently, although I may be crawling, I still refuse to let go of God. I will NEVER let go…”

~Heidi Alonso