Are Christians Allowed to Feel Heartbroken? (PART 2)

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HOW DO YOU BUILD TRUST KEEPING WITHIN BIBLICAL STANDARDS? 

You know, even God gives us evidence. He invites us to try Him.

Psalms 34:8 

“O taste and see that the Lord is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him.” 

And how do we build that relationship with God? By daily communication. You pray, you share and read His word, right?

Now let’s translate that to a relationship.

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In a relationship, you talk with your special someone, you share your dreams, your likes and dislikes, you get to know one another, and you diligently and quickly read those texts and messages that he/she sends, right?

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And just like with God, that trust is built on evidence and proof. By and by you see how that person is. Things will happen along the way that will allow you to see just how true this person is. And then will come that time when you look at that person and know that it is okay to trust him/her, while still being very aware of the fact that he/she is human, and like you, can make mistakes.

You CANNOT trust a human as you would with God. God is all powerful and will never fail you. Go ahead and name one time in which God failed His promise. He NEVER has, and never will.

Okay, so…

SHOULD CHRISTIANS FEEL HEARTBROKEN? 

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John 11:35 “Jesus wept.” 

Matthew 27:46 ” And about the ninth hour Jesus cried with a loud voice, saying, Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani? that is to say, My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?” 

Jesus did feel heartbroken. He felt heartbroken because of the great love He had for us; for you and me. He could not bear the thought of losing us.

His heartbreak, on the other hand, cannot be compared to the heartbreak that we humans feel. The nature of our heartbreak goes something like this

*I will never trust men ever again because so and so broke my heart

*I am not going to talk to her/him again because he betrayed me, he/she does not deserve to my friend

*He/she does not deserve my ‘hello’

*I hate him/her

*I am going to unfriend him/her, and block him/her from Facebook

Now take a look at how Jesus looks at it:

Zechariah 13:6 “And one shall say unto him, What are these wounds in thine hands? Then he shall answer, Those with which I was wounded in the house of my friends.” 

Revelation 3:20 “Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.” 

John 15:13 “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” 

Luke 12:7 “But even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not therefore: ye are of more value than many sparrows.” 

Isaiah 54:10 “For the mountains shall depart, and the hills be removed; but my kindness shall not depart from thee, neither shall the covenant of my peace be removed, saith the LORD that hath mercy on the” 

Isaiah 49:15-16 ” Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget thee. Behold, I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands; thy walls are continually before me.” 

Yes, we can feel heartbroken, we will feel sad and discouraged–we will cry; but we will also be able to forgive and not fall apart because our stronghold is on God.

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Matthew 18:21-22 “Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.” 

 

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He/She Broke My Heart

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Heartbroken…

Just how does one avoid being heartbroken?

Well, for starters, if we hear counsel, then we would not be in this jumble of problems in the first place. I know that if you hear counsel, then you will avoid yourself many heartaches—believe me. Your parents are right 99% of the time. And I say 99% because your parents can be wrong about a person too. There are some guys who just seem like saints come down from heaven, but then as time goes on, you and parents really get to see who this Mr. Too-Good-To-Be-True really is; or Miss Too-Good-To-Be-True.

But well, the heartbreak is there now. And you feel like all your world has crashed beneath your feet. Your dreams hold no significance anymore, you try to find a reason to get up from bed, and you literally feel like you are in a place where you don’t know where to go or what to do.

You feel lost without this person in your life.

Well, first thing you have to do is stop thinking about all this hurt. What happened already happened, and it’s past. There is nothing more cruel that you can do to yourself, than to continue living in the past. Leave the past alone, pick up your dreams and look to the future. Why will you drown all your hopes and dreams, all because of a person who did not deserve your love?

Another thing to keep in mind is this: do not go publishing your hurt in Facebook. That will only spark a chain reaction of “oh! So sorry to hear that! 😥 .” And all that will do, is put you down. But in order to avoid that, you should not have made your relationship public in Facebook in the first place. As a rule of thumb, I recommend that you not publish anything until your relationship is like SUPER serious. It’s going to hurt you so much to delete all those pictures in Facebook and…you can imagine.

Also, try to help others; don’t go into a reclusive life in order to mourn your misfortune. As you help others, and make others happy, you will find that your heart will heal. Slowly, that smile will come back to your face, and you will realize that you were put on this world for a very special purpose.

You can also take up a hobby to keep you busy. But please don’t go crazy and decide that skydiving is the best way to forget your troubles.

And well, even after all the tips I have given you, the only person who can really heal your heart is God. As your relationship grows stronger with God, you will see in clear light why that relationship failed, and why you had to go through it. You will realize that the heartbreak will only make you stronger and wiser. The next time another guy/girl comes knocking on your door, you will not so easily fall for their charm.

Just remember this: YOU ARE SPECIAL, and the person that is meant for you is somewhere around there, and he/she will come at the right moment. Don’t accept the first guy/girl that shows interest in you. Of course, there is a possibility that that person might be the right one, but what I’m trying to say is that you SHOULD NOT ENTER A RELATIONSHIP just because you FEEL LONELY.

Your heart will heal. Trust me, it will—slowly but surely.

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This article was written in response to a request I received from one of my readers in India. This person asked my opinion on how to deal with heartbreak, and so I thought it was a great idea to share this with all of you. 🙂