How To Be a True Adult

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Being an adult is some pretty serious stuff. Let’s face it, there are some who are physically adult, but the mental part is off because they act like a bunch of kids in kindergarten. I know, I find it amusing to watch as well! 

Okay, so you came here to see how to be an adult, right? Got it. Let’s begin. 

Oh…well, you must know that there are many facets of being an adult. I won’t be able to cover them all here at once, but I’ll cover one of them.

1 Don’t be a people pleaser.

My grandmother used to say this: You will never keep people happy. So just make sure you please the only person that matters, and that person is God. 

She was right.

People will always have something to say. If you didn’t do it, they will be mad because you did not do it. And if you had done it, they would still be mad because you did do it. So here’s what you do: just take your pick. Do what you believe is right, people will be mad anyways. Hahaha! 😂

Bottom line is this: don’t argue like a bunch of spoiled kids. They might be wrong and you might be in the right reason, but you have to be the bigger person. You probably might have to apologize when you did nothing wrong, but if it will keep the peace, why not do it? Why not be a peacemaker? 

Once Upon a Time…Happily Ever After

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Funny how a newlywed will tell you that marriage is amazing and beautiful, and then a couple years later, that selfsame person will beg you to really think before getting involved with a guy.

It has happened to me. Lol!

Truth is that marriage takes work. It will not always be roses and kisses. But working together as a team, supporting and loving each other, and seeking God first– well, it’s going to work out nicely.

So, just to make your life easier, here are some things to keep in mind:

FOR THE GUYS:

1 If the tube of toothpaste has a cap, USE IT. Hardened and dry toothpaste is not cool to use.

2) Put the toilet seat back down after you use it. If your wife falls in the toilet in the night, there is a 99.9% chance that you will be sleeping in the couch for the rest of the night, or nights.

3) NEVER set foot on her wet clean floor. Don’t dirty the floor she just scrubbed, that is if you don’t want to scrub it again, but this time with a toothbrush 😛 Lol!

4) Clean up those pesky little hairs after you shave. It’s annoying when the white bar of soap looks as if it has black sprinkles on it, or brown or blonde. Take your pick. 

5) ALWAYS let your wife know if you are bringing friends or visitors home, that way she has time to cook something. Serving peanut butter and jelly sandwiches is not exactly what we ladies have in mind.

6) When girls are on their monthly cycle, we can be sad, mad, happy, nostalgic and emotional all in the span of one hour. Plus we have to deal with pain and whatnot. So DON’T BE A COWARD and leave your wife alone. Be nice to her. Make her some hot tea and cuddle with her. ❤

7) Most girls take long to get ready. It’s hard for us to decide what to wear, and hairstyle to do; so instead of hollering to your wife at the top of your lungs for her to hurry up, do this the night/day before:

You: Hey sweetheart, do you think the yellow tie goes with this?

Her: White shirt, black pants and yellow tie? Honey, are you tying to go for the bumblebee look?

You: *laughing* What do you suggest then?

Her: Hmmm…let me see. Ah, this one is perfect!

You: Oh yes, perfect! I don’t know what I’d do without you. By the way, what will you wear? I think that blue dress looks lovely on you, plus it will match with my tie.

Her: Awwww, that’s right! We will match ^_^

There you have it. Problem solved. You are welcome.

8) Listen to your wife.

9) I understand that guys suffer from innate dementia, but at least try to remember her birthday, your wedding day, the day you met and the day you first messaged her on Facebook.

FOR THE GIRLS:

1) Guys don’t think on what they say when they are hungry, so if your husband says something that bothered you, don’t take it to heart because he did not mean that.

2) Men are capable of sitting down, think on nothing and do nothing; so don’t worry, they are not in comma.

3) DON’T mess with his toolbox.

4) Here is how to get your husband to fix that wobbly chair in the dining room: go to his beloved toolbox and try to fix it yourself. In a couple seconds, you will see him come running to your rescue–more like to the rescue of his tools 😛 But no, really; guys like to feel useful, so let him do it, and then go make him some lemonade.

5) Guys nature is to fix things, including you. So, don’t get mad when he tries to fix your problems and emotions. He’s just trying to help.

6) NEVER give a command to your husband because he will plop down in the couch and do nothing. The last thing a man wants is to feel manipulated. So just ask him to help you because you need him. He will listen to you. 🙂

7) Most of the times, your husband will not tell you that he is bringing his friends or visitors over, so always have something fast to cook.

8) You know, your man might forget your birthday, or the day and hour when you first met, but rest assured that he will NEVER FORGET that he loves you. So if he forgets, don’t hold it against him.

9) In my experience with men, aka my Dad and brother lol, they don’t distinguish things. The whole idea of lotions, perfumes and body mists are junk to them. For them, all you need is water, a bar of Irish Spring soap and deodorant. Therefore, keep your products out of your husbands reach before he uses your face wash as degreaser, your body mists as bathroom air fresheners and your lotion as shaving cream. 😉

10) When it comes to getting sick, men are pros at that. So don’t worry so much when he has a sore throat, but he keeps acting like if they slipping away.

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Where is My Prince Charming?

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Friday, September 2, 2016

Dear Diary,

You really want to know something? I don’t want a Prince Charming who will charm me. A prince whose lips drop as honey comb and whose mouth is smoother than oil; but then later on I will end up drinking wormwood tea instead of a sweet cup of chamomile.

So yeah, I do hope this Prince Charming never crosses my path.

Anyways, let’s talk a little more on this subject: on finding the right person, and not just Prince Charming.

STEP #3: Whom Shall I Marry?

Wow, okay, so now that you know that you are ready, you want to know who is going to put up with you for the rest of your living days.

So what do you ask next?

Where is my Prince Charming, and my tall-dark-and-handsome? Hmm, not exactly. The next question you should ask is this: who does God have for me?

And well, after all we have discussed so far, I hope that you have well grounded in your brain the fact that you cannot choose for yourself. Sure, the people will tell you to follow your heart, but on the other hand, God says that our heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked. So, who will you follow, God or your wicked heart? Think about that.

And of course, there are other questions to consider. One of those many questions is this: Are you being the kind of person you are looking for? If you are looking for an honest person, are you honest? Are you a spiritual person?

You know, I once heard of a true story of a guy who had his dream girl all planned out. Time passed, and he did find her eventually. He told this girl about his feelings and how she was his perfect girl, but then the girl told him that he was not the perfect man for her.

Ouch! Poor guy! But it’s true, you know. Many times we get so caught up in daydreaming and planning our perfect person, that we forget about perfecting ourselves to the best we can for that person. Here is where true love is especially manifested in our willingness to change our defects of character, even if we don’t have the girl/guy, and even if we don’t even know who they are. Because I mean, if you are in love, you can easily promise to be saint #1.

But always remember that God will choose for you. Better said, you have to let God choose for you, because He will never force you.

Did Adam choose Eve? No.

Did Isaac choose his wife? No.

Did Samson choose his wife? Aha! Yes, he did. He said that Delilah pleased his eyes, and we all know what happened to his eyes later on. Don’t let that happen to you.

Many people just look at the physical part, but that should really be the last in your list. Character is the one to be focused on. This person you look for should complement you. You should have common interests and goals. Someone that you can work together with and enjoy it. Of course, you can’t find the same exact person as you, or else you will go crazy because if you both hate spiders, who will kill them for you? And if you are complete opposites, and hence have different tastes in music, then riding in the car with that person is going to be a pain in your ears.

I’m pretty sure that you can see that there needs to be a balance. And only God, along with your parents, can figure that out. God made you and He knows who will make you happy, and your parents know you more than you do yourself.

You also have to remember that your parents were given to you by God, and He will many times speaks to us through our god-fearing parents. And to end, I will give you the key that works pretty much for everything: PRAY WITHOUT CEASING.

Prayer does work, my friend. 🙂

 

 

…I’m Crazy…

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Sunday, May 22, 2016

Dear Diary,

Do you know if fishes suffer from diarrhea?? I think my pet fishes do. The water from their tank gets so darn dirty and I took 1 hour today just scrubbing the daylights out of it!

Moving on…

My day went pretty well today. 🙂 Part of my day was spend in filming. I filmed a video that I will be posting tomorrow. And the video is going to be about that plant in the picture up there. Isn’t the plant pretty?! 😀 So green! Lively green ❤ Jungle of green. How cool is that?! ^_^

Okay, I’ll stop rambling about how much I love green. Lol.

Let me better write about how I love to see people happy. 🙂

That’s right, I love to see people happy. It makes me happy to see people happy. And I like to make people happy.

Have you ever seen that picture that is circulating in Facebook, and that says something like ‘be happy for other people’s success because life is not a competition’? Well, I have seen that picture like so many times and–oh look, I found it 😀 (y)

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I think this is very true. And it makes me sad to see people all stricken down with jealousy inflicted illness, and mad ugly faces that have seen better days.

Why do people get jealous? Why are there people that cannot stand to see another person or friend succeed in something? Why do they feel that they have to be the best of everything, and that everyone else has to be below them?

*sigh* I feel sorry for them because they are totally nutts. They do not enjoy life because all they worry about is beating that other person, and being better than everyone else so that they can get all the attention. I bet those people are not happy. Happiness comes from helping and serving others. It comes from giving and forgetting about yourself. 🙂

“I have shewed you all things, how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he said, It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Acts 20:35

Happiness comes from doing everything with the sole purpose of glorifying God and not yourself.

P.S. According to what that picture says, I guess I am officially a crazy person. But it’s a good kind of crazy. 😀 (y)

What Being Happy Feels Like

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Friday, April 29, 2016

Dear Diary,

Does everyone really know what being happy feels like?

I was wondering that today because I am really happy. So happy! I tell you, when God answers a prayer, that is like that most happy feeling ever!! And I just wish that every single person one day feels what I felt today!

That feeling of knowing for yourself that there is really a God out there that is listening to you every moment of the day. A God that loves you and takes time to listen to every single thing that is troubling you!

So yeah, I have come to the conclusion that what happy feels like is when you have God as your best friend! 🙂

“Prayer is the opening of the heart to God as to a friend.” E.G.W.

Like a Child

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Tuesday, April 26, 2016

Dear Diary,

Today I could finally upload my video to YouTube. Finally! LOL. What happened was that yesterday we had a power outage. I was about to upload the video, and then–black screen! I was like, “Noooo!” But yeah, the power was out at about 5:00 P.M, and came back on like at 12:30 A.M. So by that time I was already sleeping, and was only awakened because the lamp that is over my bed turned on on me. It scared me. I was like, “Geez, where am I?” haha!

There it is!

So yeah, yesterday we ate a very romantic dinner lighted by candles! hahaha! We really had fun though. My little sister, Daisy, was a happy mess, and when she said the prayer before eating, she was like, “And Jesus, thank you because the power went out!”

And you know what? I really thought long and hard about what my little sister said (I mean, I had all the time to think without any internet. Lol.) Watching my little sister jump around all happy at the thought of eating in the candlelight, and because my Dad was lighting a kerosene made me happy too! 🙂

It just does not take so much to make a child happy! Have you ever realized that?! They are happy with the simplest of things. They are so trusting and loving!

Why can’t we be more like them? Now I understand what Jesus meant when He said this:

“…Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven.” Matthew 18:3

Look at this beautiful quote from one of my favorite books:

“The simplicity, the self-forgetfulness, and the confiding love of a little child are the attributes that Heaven values. These are the characteristics of real greatness.” The Desire of Ages page 437.1

I want to be more like a little child. How about you? 🙂