The Side Effects of Being Homeschooled 

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Yeah, so I have been away for several weeks… sorry about that. But—thank goodness—I do have a very valid excuse for all of this. You see, I began college a few weeks ago. This will be my third week to be exact.

So with that in mind, I want to make a little reflection on my past educational life, since, as many of you know, I have been homeschooled basically my entire life. And yes! That is my class picture in the cover photo. Don’t we look so cute!

Anyways, I will now be answering some questions that have been accumulating for years. These questions I have either been asked directly, or I have heard them asked to my parents, or they are just general questions people ask when they realize that I am a member of the Seventh Day Adventist Reform Movement, and that I was homeschooled, and therefore will freak out and drop college because I did not have a social life since I was locked up in the house studying and because I dress different, and because basically I am not used to the outside world. In other words because I’m an anti-social weirdo.

Well, let’s answer the questions, shall we. And note, these questions I am answering very honestly. I will not hide anything here.

1) What do you think about college?

College has been a great growing experience for me. It has allowed me to grow more into an adult. I have been able to put into practice all that I have learned before.

2) Is college too hard for you?

Honestly, it’s way too easy. I am in a class where I basically know everything. And here I thought that college would keep me awake doing homework at night. Maybe when I get to hard core math, then I’ll be crying my eyes out, but so far so good.

3) How have you coped with being in a classroom setting…?

Because I was homeschooled and if I am in classroom with 29 plus students I will faint? I have actually enjoyed the classroom setting very much. It’s dynamic and I like participating. And yes, I do prefer studying on my own account, but that love for self teaching has helped in my college assignments. While the other students pile over to the professors desk to ask more questions and to get their sheet of information further explained because they just cannot figure it out on their own accord, I just walk out of class because I already know what I have to do.

4) Do you feel you have to dress different in order to fit in?

Fit in? I dress how I like. I don’t feel I need to dress differently in order to fit in. The only person I need to please is God, and no one else. Actually, the way I dress has helped me very much. I am treated with respect from young men. I have had several experiences in this regard, but Ill mention one here: One time, I was coming out of the classroom and a young man—classmate of mine—let the door close on another girl who was dressed very inappropriately, but he held it open just for me. I must confess I felt like a princess! And in reality I am, and so are you. We are daughters of the King of Kings and we ought to dress and behave like one too.

5) How about guys? Has any guy approached you with bad intentions? Do they look at you differently or with wrong eyes? 

Yes I have been approached. With bad intentions? Well, if a guy wants to buy you an iPhone, is that a bad intention?? LOL! I have only been approached once in all the time I have been here. But it was one of those guys who seem to have a chronic mental problem. Those who come to college just to pick up chicks they say. I mean, c’mon there are no chickens in college as far as I know. Go to the farm for that. Hahaha! Yeah, I know what that term means. I’m just being funny. Those guys need to glue their nose in a book and actually study. And yes, I know how to handle them. Hmmm, looked at me with different eyes? Oh yes, all the time! Of course they look at me, but they look at me with respect. Not one guy has ever looked at me with another look in their eyes because I never give them reason to do so.

6) Do you have friends in college?

Remember, I am a social human being. Lol! Yes, I have friends, but rather acquaintances. Sometimes, I attend this group where young people get together to read the Bible. I find it amazing because I can share about my beliefs, and I can also ask questions in order to make the others think more deeply about a Bible verse.

7) Have you done missionary work in college?  

Of course I have, and it has been great! I have given out several Steps to Christ, and I have also sold some books to some friends. I also began this little project where I leave little anonymous notes with Bible verses, or an inspiring quote in empty desks, and people actually take them. At times, I also leave Steps to Christ in empty desks along with a little note, and the next day when I walk by to check the spots where I left them, they are no longer there because people keep the book! It’s just simply amazing!

8) How are your grades?

Straight A’s, with God’s help. I like to study, so I am one of the top students in my class.

9) Is college a temptation to bend your principles in regards to your beliefs? Are you not afraid that you will slip into the world and leave the church?

This has never been a problem I worried about. Why would I be afraid? Of course, in college and pretty much everywhere you will have temptations surround you, it is up to you not to let those temptations dominate you. One has to have that constant relationship with God in order to resist. We of ourselves CANNOT resist on our own. And yes, although, as I said, this has never been a worry to me, I am conscious of the fact that I cannot afford to neglect my relationship with God at any time. With God’s help, I am still here, and I pray that I don’t stray from the right path.

10) Do you like any guy in college?  

Several people have asked me this, and I’m guessing a greater number just don’t dare ask me. LOL! And I think a lot of people think this a great risk because there have been countless cases where a girl goes off to college, she falls in love with a guy, and then she has a kid or she just leaves the church and slips into everlasting doom. But my answer is no. I do not like any guy here. I came here to study, not to waste my time. Of course, please don’t be under the impression that I am saying that I am a saint and I will never do this or that. I am a human, and I make mistakes, but I am trying, with God’s help, to stay away from those mistakes. And I know that if you really care about me, and care about all those young people from the church also studying in college, I know you will pray for them.

11) Why didn’t you go Missionary School first and then attend a Christian/Adventist college?

Missionary school? I have already taken missionary courses. I have not been able to attend a full course of say two years in Australia, but if presented with the opportunity, of course I would go. But one does not really need to travel in order to learn something that you can very well learn on your own at home. And why did I not go to a Christian college so that I would not slip into the world? Do you realize the time in which we live in? To me there is no difference between a secular college to that of a Christian or Adventist one. Of course, in the Adventist one they would understand things about not being able to work on Sabbath or the like, but in regards to the rest, it’s pretty much the same. So for me, choosing AVC was the best option. I was not going to say move to another state in order to study and waste money where I have a perfectly amazing college 45 minutes away from my home. I honestly find it very unreasonable, when young people move out from their parents home in order to go study. What are they trying to do, get rid of their parents rules for once in their life? I mean, I know that that is not always the case, but for me I just found this college to be perfect because I was going to be still at home and be able to help my parents. I don’t want to leave my parents home just yet. I’ll be sad enough when I get married and then I’ll have to move out. Hehehe!

12) Did you wish you were never homeschooled?

This is probably the question I have been asked the most. And it’s funny in the sense that all throughout the years my response has not changed: Yes, homeschooled has A LOT of side effects, you learn to study on your own; you learn to love and appreciate your home; one gets to spend the entire time with their parents; you learn at your own pace; you avoid peer pressure; you learn to have self-control and not play outside until you finish your work; you can study outside on a nice sunny day; the kitchen becomes a classroom, and there’s the perk of, you know, nibbling on a cookie while you work out a division problem (ummm, eating between meals in not good, so please leave the cookie alone); I became a teacher at a very young age because I helped teach my two younger sisters; I had time to dedicate to music and writing. Well, I could go on and on with this list, but I’m afraid I have written so much already. In a nutshell, my answer is this: I AM BLESSED BECAUSE I WAS HOMESCHOOLED. I NEVER regret being taught at home. I look back into my childhood years and I smile because I enjoyed it very much. And now that I’m all grown up and going to college, all those things I learned at home are proving to be helpful to me.

P.S. Special thanks to God, my parents, sister Marin, the Torpey family who have supported us through this wonderful journey.

 

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“Lord, I Love Him. Why Can’t I Have Him?”

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“Lord, you know I really love him. I believe he is the one. Why can’t I have him??”

“But Dad/Mom, what’s so wrong with him? I’m happy with him. Doesn’t my happiness matter to you guys anymore?” 

“Why is it that the guy I really like is exactly the one that seems impossible to have?” 

Sound familiar? 

Maybe you have heard some young people say this, or…yourself? 

Well, I got the idea for this topic the other day when I was talking to a good friend of mine. We were sharing our views on choice making, relationships, and on how many times we misinterpret God.

…yes, it is possible to misinterpret God. For example, take a look at this scenario: 

Let’s suppose you like this guy, or girl, so much. But here’s the deal: your parents don’t approve at all. And somewhere in the back of your head, you know God would not approve either. But being the amazingly stubborn person that you are, you still go to God and beg and complain. It then happens that God gets fed up, and so He says, “Okay. Fine. You can have him/her.” And then you are like, “Oh my goodness! God answered my prayer! I knew this guy was the one!” But the truth is that God is giving you what you want not because it is His will, but because you will only learn by suffering the consequences. 

Listen, when it comes to relationships, making life choices and pretty much everything, you NEED to come to God with a clean bowl. Don’t bring your choice of flour or oil. Just bring your clean bowl and allow God to give you the ingredients and utensils to make the perfect cake. 🎂 

“Trust in the lord with all thine heart,

And lean not to thine own understanding.

In all thy ways acknowledge Him,

And He shall direct thy paths.” 

It’s Wrong But I Still Do It…So Learn From It.

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It is just wrong. Plain and simple.

But I still do it.

Why? 

I have to do it, else I just go crazy. 

I think no one else does it better than I do.

Or faster than I do. 

But I think I should let her do it too. 

Just make sure she does it well done. 

*sigh*

Okay…if I never allow her the opportunity, she will not learn.

I can’t be everywhere, and do everything at the same time.

Even though I do pride myself in multi-tasking…

Like my Dad says, he who tries to do all, ends up doing little.

I still whish I had 10 hands…

Alright, alright…

I’m done talking. Thanks for listening. 

He Is Attractive 

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Yes, He was attractive. Still is and always will be. 

But now the question is about you. Are you attractive enough? Or is everyone fleeing your company? They should not be running away from you. If they are, then you might want to change your attitude. 

Your attitude is always the problem. That air of I-am-better will not take you anywhere. You might think that it is heaven approved, and you feel more holy by doing so, but truth be told, it’s the TOTAL opposite. 

Consider this: Jesus and the Pharisees.

Was there anything wrong with all that the Pharisees and scribes taught? Nope. All the rules they taught others to follow were very good. But why did people flee from them? 

You see, much like many of us today, they lived their lives in constant worry. They constantly looked for more burdensome rules. They criticized others who did not do as they said. They exaggerated the rules in the Bible, and even made their own. So, who would find their religion attractive where at every turn you realized you were doing wrong like not washing your hands enough times, or in modern times now, you sin if you crack a joke or cut your hair a certain way? Certainly not me! I’d go crazy by just writing a schedule of all I had to do to be holy.

But then there comes this man who attracts thousands of people. He was more of a rule breaker than a keeper. What made the company and words of Jesus so attractive? 

Remember when He said that we should do all what the Pharisees and scribes said, but not do as they, because they said and did not?  

Well, there is the key: you and your religion will be attractive when all you do and say is born out of love to God. All those regulations and rules will be a delight to do. Kind of like when it’s a joy to stay up till 1AM to chat with the guy/girl you like/love.

Ooopsy doodles! 🙄

Not that I recommend you stay up that late. In fact, you shouldn’t. I take that back…okay, time to stop writing. 😂

Como Ser un Adulto Verdadero

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Vaya que ser adulto es cosa seria. La verdad-la verdad, hay gente que son adultos físicamente, pero mentalmente tienen todo por ninguna parte porque se comportar como un montón de chiquillos de primaria. Y si, es bien divertido verlos! Jajaja! 

Bueno, viniste aquí para aprender como ser un adulto, así que vamos a empezar. Ehhh…bueno, la verdad que ser adulto cubre varias cosas. No voy a poder cubrir todo en esta ocasión, pero voy a cubrir una parte.

1) No seas una persona que le de gusto a toda gente. 

Mi abuela siempre me decía esto: Nunca vas a tener a toda la gente contenta. Así que solamente asegúrate de agradar a la persona que si lo merece, y ese alguien es Dios.

Ella tenia razón.

La gente siempre va tener algo que decir. Si no lo haces, se van a molestar porque no lo hiciste. Y si lo hubieras hecho, también se iban a molestar porque si lo hiciste. Así que lo que tienes que hacer es esto: haz lo que tu pienses que esta correcto, al fin y al cabo se van a molestar! Jejeje!

El punto es este: no te pongas a alegar con ellos como un montón de chiquillos malcriados. Ellos pueden estar mal y tu tener la razón, pero tienes que ser la persona que no este en el nivel bajo de ellos. Quizás tengas que pedir perdón cuando tu no hayas hecho nada. Pero si pedir perdón va a mantener la paz, porque no hacerlo? Porque no ser un pacificador? Ellos saben que tu no lo hiciste, y tu al pedir perdón, pues “ascuas de fuego amontonas sobre su cabeza.”

How To Be a True Adult

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Being an adult is some pretty serious stuff. Let’s face it, there are some who are physically adult, but the mental part is off because they act like a bunch of kids in kindergarten. I know, I find it amusing to watch as well! 

Okay, so you came here to see how to be an adult, right? Got it. Let’s begin. 

Oh…well, you must know that there are many facets of being an adult. I won’t be able to cover them all here at once, but I’ll cover one of them.

1 Don’t be a people pleaser.

My grandmother used to say this: You will never keep people happy. So just make sure you please the only person that matters, and that person is God. 

She was right.

People will always have something to say. If you didn’t do it, they will be mad because you did not do it. And if you had done it, they would still be mad because you did do it. So here’s what you do: just take your pick. Do what you believe is right, people will be mad anyways. Hahaha! 😂

Bottom line is this: don’t argue like a bunch of spoiled kids. They might be wrong and you might be in the right reason, but you have to be the bigger person. You probably might have to apologize when you did nothing wrong, but if it will keep the peace, why not do it? Why not be a peacemaker? 

Mas Estrés…Mas Éxito!

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Si, si–me escuchaste bien.
Entre mas estrés tengas, mas éxito tendrás en todo lo que hagas.
Pero bajo ALGUNAS condiciones, por supuesto.
Yo creo que esto es cierto porque pues me paso esta semana. Pues veras, esta semana que paso, estaba tan ocupada y preocupada con el papeleo del colegio que casi perdí la cabeza. Tal vez eso sea fácil para alguna gente, pero si tienes que saber algo de mi, recuerda esto: A MI NO ME GUSTA LIDIAR CON PAPELEO, DOCUMENTOS Y LLAMADAS TELEFÓNICAS.
Me estaba estresando tanto, y todavía tengo mas por delante. Pero estoy contenta por eso.
Aquí están las condiciones–>
Entre mas estrés tengo, mas me recuerdo de hacer lo mejor que puedo. Y también, mas confió en que Dios me puede ayudar cuando ya no encuentro la salida.
Adelante, estresate…pero no te olvides que solo Dios te puede acompañar. Así que no te olvides de llevarlo contigo. 🙂