Okay, so you consider yourself a Christian, right?
So, what do you think, is feeling heartbroken permissible? Aren’t Christians supposed to be joyful like ALWAYS?
But was not Elijah so heartbroken that he even asked God to take his life?
1 Kings 19: 4,9-10
“But he himself went a day’s journey into the wilderness, and came and sat down under a juniper tree: and he requested for himself that he might die; and said, It is enough; now, O Lord, take away my life; for I am not better than my fathers… And he came thither unto a cave, and lodged there; and, behold, the word of the Lord came to him, and he said unto him, What doest thou here, Elijah? And he said, I have been very jealous for the Lord God of hosts: for the children of Israel have forsaken thy covenant, thrown down thine altars, and slain thy prophets with the sword; and I, even I only, am left; and they seek my life, to take it away.”
Okay, so what kind of heartbreak are we allowed to feel?
Well, lets begin by answering some questions
WHAT IS HEARTBREAK?
Well, heartbreak can occur in a relationship, friendship, in a family circle or even workplace circle. It happens when a person (persons) causes you great pain, sadness, and disappointment. It can take the form of a betrayal, unfaithfulness and dishonesty.
WHEN DOES HEARTBREAK HAPPEN?
It happens when an agreement is broken. And that agreement can be spoken or unspoken. For example, a couple can agree on not doing something with another person, so when the other party does do it, that trust is broken.
Then there is that unspoken agreement where you assume that friends, parents and relatives will take care of you and not harm you. So when that power is somehow abused, trust will be broken.
In a friendship, for example, a person might tell you that you inspire them trust, that they feel they have known you for a long time(even though it’s not true), or that you are their best buddy—but then you realize that they are not who you thought they were. It’s true that you probably never signed a pact of honesty or the like, but you assumed, right? So that is what I mean when I say unspoken agreements.
So now that we have seen what heartbreak is, and when it happens, let us see
WHY YOU ARE HEARTBROKEN
It’s pretty simple. You trusted another person more than you did yourself. So when that certain person, or persons, failed you—well, your world basically comes crashing down.
You feel heartbroken because you never expected this person to lie to you, or you never thought he/she would do such a thing. It basically never crossed your mind at all.
You depended on this person for your happiness; so when this person is gone, you feel empty and lost.
HOW DO YOU AVOID THAT HURT?
Let me ask you something: Have you ever disappointed someone? Has a friend of yours ever told you that they were disappointed in you? If so, what was your response? I’m sure your response was very valid in your eyes, right? You probably apologized and said that it would not happen again, and that anyone could make a mistake.
And that is right. Please get something straight—> Humans are humans, and we all make mistakes. Once you realize this, and fully accept it, then you will not be so heartbroken when people fail you.
In Jeremiah 17:5 it says, “Thus saith the Lord; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the Lord.”
So it is very clear, that by placing your trust fully on a human being, then you are doing wrong.
But you might say, “Well, what about friendships and relationships, are they not built on trust?”
God tells us that we are cursed if we put our trust on men, but still, a relationship is built on trust. So what do we do?
Well, would you trust a person as much as you trust God?
Are you supposed to trust God blindly?
That leads me to my next question…
Stay tuned for part 2 on November 18, 2016.