Just how does one avoid being heartbroken?
Well, for starters, if we hear counsel, then we would not be in this jumble of problems in the first place. I know that if you hear counsel, then you will avoid yourself many heartaches—believe me. Your parents are right 99% of the time. And I say 99% because your parents can be wrong about a person too. There are some guys who just seem like saints come down from heaven, but then as time goes on, you and parents really get to see who this Mr. Too-Good-To-Be-True really is; or Miss Too-Good-To-Be-True.
But well, the heartbreak is there now. And you feel like all your world has crashed beneath your feet. Your dreams hold no significance anymore, you try to find a reason to get up from bed, and you literally feel like you are in a place where you don’t know where to go or what to do.
You feel lost without this person in your life.
Well, first thing you have to do is stop thinking about all this hurt. What happened already happened, and it’s past. There is nothing more cruel that you can do to yourself, than to continue living in the past. Leave the past alone, pick up your dreams and look to the future. Why will you drown all your hopes and dreams, all because of a person who did not deserve your love?
Another thing to keep in mind is this: do not go publishing your hurt in Facebook. That will only spark a chain reaction of “oh! So sorry to hear that! 😥 .” And all that will do, is put you down. But in order to avoid that, you should not have made your relationship public in Facebook in the first place. As a rule of thumb, I recommend that you not publish anything until your relationship is like SUPER serious. It’s going to hurt you so much to delete all those pictures in Facebook and…you can imagine.
Also, try to help others; don’t go into a reclusive life in order to mourn your misfortune. As you help others, and make others happy, you will find that your heart will heal. Slowly, that smile will come back to your face, and you will realize that you were put on this world for a very special purpose.
You can also take up a hobby to keep you busy. But please don’t go crazy and decide that skydiving is the best way to forget your troubles.
And well, even after all the tips I have given you, the only person who can really heal your heart is God. As your relationship grows stronger with God, you will see in clear light why that relationship failed, and why you had to go through it. You will realize that the heartbreak will only make you stronger and wiser. The next time another guy/girl comes knocking on your door, you will not so easily fall for their charm.
Just remember this: YOU ARE SPECIAL, and the person that is meant for you is somewhere around there, and he/she will come at the right moment. Don’t accept the first guy/girl that shows interest in you. Of course, there is a possibility that that person might be the right one, but what I’m trying to say is that you SHOULD NOT ENTER A RELATIONSHIP just because you FEEL LONELY.
Your heart will heal. Trust me, it will—slowly but surely.
This article was written in response to a request I received from one of my readers in India. This person asked my opinion on how to deal with heartbreak, and so I thought it was a great idea to share this with all of you. 🙂