Friday, September 9, 2016
So what do I do now? What do I do if I think I have found a man who can potentially put up with me for the rest of my life? Do I like say something? Or like give him a hint?
Okay, okay–let me clarify. Those questions are just an example of the questions girls might have. It does not mean that I have them now. I might later; ya’ never know. 😛 Lol! But well, leave me out of the picture for now; let’s talk about step #4.
STEP #4: Observe, Seek Counsel, Be Wise, Be Friends
Hmmm…so what exactly do we look at? What do we observe? Face, eyes, smile? Ehhh…nope.
If you think you have found the right girl/guy, then you should be observing other things. Of course, physical attraction should be there, but it should not be your main focus. You have to dissect that persons behavior. I mean, this is a person who could potentially be your future spouse, so then of course you want to know who they really are, right?
- How does this person behave?
- How does she/he treat her/his parents?
- Is she’he respectful?
- Is she/he helpful without being asked?
- How does she/he behave when her/his parents are not around? Does she/he behave differently?
- How does she/he behave around the company of other young people?
- How do they treat the opposite sex? Do they have self-respect?
Open your eyes and observe well without making your interest known to that person as of yet. That way, you will be able to see the true colors of the person you got your eyes on.
B) SEEK COUNSEL
Yes, unless you are some kind of super genius and mind-reader ( jk mind-reading does not exist), then you will need advice from someone who is not emotionally involved and hence, has a clear mind than you do at the present moment. Because later, you will be like, “Ohhhhhh, I see now!”
And so where do you get that counsel from?
- God and His word
- God-fearing parents
- Older men and women of experience
Tip: Visit the church of the person you are interested in. That way, you can see how that person interacts in their home church.
Girls DON’T READ, this is ONLY for the guys eyes: I once listened to a sermon that was about courtship and all that cool stuff. And what this person said has truth to it. He was saying how you should seek counsel with the parents of the girl. Let your intentions be known to them because they deserve to know. You have to realize that the girl belongs to her parents, and if you go on trying to win her affections without their permission, wouldn’t that be considered stealing?
Something to think about, guys.
C) BE WISE
Be logical when it comes to these matters. Think ahead. You can think clearly now, when there are not too much emotional attachments from your part.
D) BE FRIENDS
If you cannot be friends now, then how will your marriage work if you do marry that person later on? Your future spouse should be your best friend, right? So I think it is very important to be friends at first, and get some answers to your questions.
- Do you both get along well?
- If you fight all the time, what makes you think that married life will be pure bliss?
- How does this person react in different situations?
- Can you both work as a team and enjoy yourselves?
- Is there that connection between the two of you?
- Do you feel at home in her/his social circle?
- Do you enjoy being around her/his friends?
And well, those are some of the many questions to be asked. Now, let’s talk about Facebook and chatting, and all that stuff.
Yeah, I know, I know…this is a very tricky and controversial subject to many people. Just how much is too much on social media? Does it matter how often you chat with a girl/guy?
Well, it’s obvious that if you chat every single day, then there is something going on.
Listen, everyone has their own interpretations on this matter of Facebook and chatting. But let me tell you this: Be careful that you don’t toy with peoples emotions and feelings. If you are not interested in someone, then don’t act as if you do.
Be careful. That is all I will say, the rest is up to you. 🙂